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MFW I turned 30 today: Thirty years. Woo! I feel like I've done relatively well for my life so far. I live independently and comfortably, and have done so for at least 3 years now. My finances are largely in order and I'm even saving for my retirement as well. As bizarre as the company I work for is, and despite the apparent lack of opportunities to advance on my project, I have a pretty good job. My work puts me just slightly above the average income for my area, but slightly below the surrounding area's pay for my field/experience. The general area affords me options to change this through changing companies, but I can't help but feel I'm in something of a unique arrangement with this project: the people are nice, the client is good, the managers are in another state (along with the client), and I feel my contributions/opinions are respected well. The project itself is growing repetitive, but past experience with other projects at that company lead me to believe its still better than most of what's out there. My hobbies, have dwindled in number down to a few. Much of my time spent outside of work involves toying around with 3D modelling. Sometimes I treat it like my second job, if I'm honest about it. Really, there's only one aspect of my life I think I regret the direction it has taken: relationships and love. I barely even know my coworkers. I have no local friends. I've never been very outgoing, but over the last 3 years I've slowly come to realize how isolated I've made myself. Efforts to reverse this have been slow and only seen meaningful progress in the last 6 months or so and even then it has been mostly restricted to the internet. I feel I should want to do more than work, then come home and work more. Even more, I want to find some one to be with and love. To settle down and have some children, even. But, this has evolved into an actual desire only recently. Everything I've worked for in my life has been through a maximization process and I've organized everything around me to fit that. Now, I feel like I can't stop this mechanistic procession I've set up for my life and sense I've made a terrible mistake! My twenties are over and I feel like I've missed my chance. I haven't the faintest idea of where to go or what to do. All I seem to know how to do is work. It took some time to convince myself, but I've set up today and tomorrow as vacation. It needs to be more than a vacation from my job. I feel compelled to at least try to take some time out about the area, rather than spend it all exactly where I would find myself after work. I had planned to go to the zoo, but weather seems unlikely to cooperate. I should really try for the museum. There's not much else of interest to do in this area, from what I can find. TL;DR I'm 30 and mostly doing pretty well! Despite the title Thanks for reading this silly 'little' rave/rant vent of mine!