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Hmm... It's hard to say which one is the worst, so I'll just list my top 5: laziness, being out of shape (and the many problems that come with it), caring way too much about people and random shit I shouldn't, social anxiety (which I refer to as "social retardation" because I don't understand bare basics and people are bad at just being direct), and extremely hard to fight pessimism.

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I maaay have said before, I tend to be narcissistic, as in I regard myself highly at times. Meaning I take on more than I can handle expecting myself to be awesome and able to do it, I expect people to like and appreciate me and get frustrated if they dont, I often try my best to be my best and help other people if I can...and If Im not careful I consider myself nice to the point of arrogance and that just silly.

 

This hides the fact that I have had and will always have poor social skills that I often need to work on, that I fear rejection based on personal traits and affinities I possess and will often close off about myself rather than open up, that I tend to draw in too much and focus too much on things in my world rather paying attention to whats around me, that Im a klutz or goof who's got a constant mess of objects and ideas that never seem to be fixed, I call what I can fix "organized chaos". 

And despite not often reaching out and staying in the loop I somehow need contact anyways, even though I dont really and most often am fine on my own more than most people are.

 

I hear in job interviews phrasing flaws into assets is the best way to make them like you. Hence why "Narcissism" is easily not a flaw at times, it sure beats having low self esteem as it were in middle school, even if Im just a disillusioned egocentric

(Note: Not that I go into a job saying Im a narcissist I mean generally speaking, derpdaherp)

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 I'm particularly vindictive, I occasionally perceive minor stressful situations as hopelessly difficult, and I'm extremely misanthropic. Throw in a light dash of depression and a bit of slothfulness and you wind up with the side of me that I absolutely cannot stomach.

These negative personality traits are offset by my altruistic, empathic, and sympatric nature.

I guess I'm a pretty strong neurotic or something.

 

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5 hours ago, Astus said:

I would say that it either has to be my constant need to cope through knowledge, or my sometimes conflicting personality. 

 

Unless of course you want to go by society's standards then that is being a babyfur

:P Haha no youre fine Astus, youre pretty cool for a babyfur and would probably represent those that dont have that awful stereotype attached to them.

As in, you can hold normal conversations, or even be goofy lighthearted and silly, without having to RP being a baby all the time. I find that admirable for a babyfur.

Plus I actually think babyfur stuff is cute if not overdone to certain levels of strange. 

 

Take that as a compliment if you so wish

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I have trouble expressing myself so I shut out everyone and everything when I'm sad or confused. It also makes me come off as insensitive or uncaring when someone is upset with me and I'm also upset. I'm great at talking through problems and expressing my ideas, but when it comes to expressing feelings during an exact moment, I turn cold. I never know what to say nor how to say it until push comes to shove and someone starts yelling.

My awful memory is also legendary. I'm lucky to remember what I did in the morning, and I'm known to drop conversations while I'm talking because I'll forget what I was going to say. It gets even worse at night when I'm tired. Words turn to spaghetti and no sentence makes sense.

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  • Lack of social skills
  • Need for control + perfection
  • Dislike of authority
  • Hatred of doing anything that I'm not personally interested in (e.g. my job)

BUT people need to remember that flaws, while they aren't necessarily good, aren't always a negative thing. We need our flaws; they're what makes each of us so unique. Sometimes they can even work to your advantage. For example, you can be a really stubborn person and cause people to have a hard time dealing with you, but that same stubbornness could be the thing that make you excel at your job, or keep you from following bad advice or something. Steve Jobs was an extremely flawed person, and he could be a real ass because of it, but without his flaws he wouldn't have made an impression on the world like he did. I'm not saying you shouldn't try to improve yourself, because you should strive to be the best person you can be, but just remember that you don't have to be flawless.

6 hours ago, Astus said:

Unless of course you want to go by society's standards then that is being a babyfur

You're probably the most likable one I've came across so I wouldn't call it a flaw.

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On 2/27/2016 at 3:10 PM, Endless/Nameless said:

Dislike of authority

I'm particularly bad with this. I teeter on very divide between being a follower and functioning as a leader: I wouldn't be necessarily against hefting the burden of directing others onto someone else's shoulders, but kowtowing to another person's will for a prolonged stretch of time (especially if that person is a toxic asshole) is bound to end in disaster at some point.

I don't stand an ounce of a chance in the employed world.

 

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I suppose one of my greatest flaws would be my memory. I have a lot of trouble retaining and recalling things to the point where I just withdraw. I go to being a blank slate for an undetermined amount of time when I get frustrated or overly stressed out.

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I go through really drastic mood swings, and I can change moods at a snap.

I have very low self-esteem, and, like Joel, I tend to build others up but break myself down.

I also have no self control when it comes to food or buying food, which causes me to stress about my weight and my money.

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4 hours ago, Vaer said:

I suppose one of my greatest flaws would be my memory. I have a lot of trouble retaining and recalling things to the point where I just withdraw. I go to being a blank slate for an undetermined amount of time when I get frustrated or overly stressed out.

Memory retrieval is a lot harder when trying to freely recall details rather than having hints, context, mneumonics, meaning and semantic to provide memory aid. It's the reason why we often find multiple choice easier than fill in the blank. You might not be able to recall the word right away even if you know it somewhere in your head or on the tip of your tongue, but when presented a small list of words you might be able to pick it up right away just being reminded of what it is you need to know.

I've had a fairly neutral to successful time with memory, and a lot of it is all trial and error and repetition. I think the key for me is I don't work too hard to retain things, rather I find loops by just doing it over and over again (such as remembering my phone number, remembering my class schedule in high school, and the like), finding alternative meaning or visual ideas (In school we remembered countries by what shape they take up, or I often remember words by building associations with known words, such as latin). Most often I'll have lots of memories floating around in my head that seem overwhelming and I find just plopping down random lists for anything and everything I could want also helps organize my thoughts in physical visual form rather than a tangled web.

Heh, didnt mean to lecture you but I mean the whole 'blank slate' effect can be awful I feel you, that feeling of the brain shutting down is not fun. If you would wish to improve on that I suggest delving deeper into Memory psychology and understanding how memory works and why, it may help to understand how you work and what aids you

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16 hours ago, WolfNightV4X1 said:

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Haha, no worries Wolfie. Although this is indeed helpful for problems with memorization and learning things my problem is with my memory in general. I suffered from an HAI and had some brain damage (lost a fair amount of brain cells). So a lot of my memory is pretty much screwed up. Fortunately for me my major cognitive faculties remained intact but I still have problems with identifying people I've known and recalling memories that involve them. I have done many memory exercices, recollection therapies, and seen some specialists that have helped as much as they could. Now it's all on me to just essentially live with my selfimposed struggle.

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2 hours ago, Vaer said:

Haha, no worries Wolfie. Although this is indeed helpful for problems with memorization and learning things my problem is with my memory in general. I suffered from an HAI and had some brain damage (lost a fair amount of brain cells). So a lot of my memory is pretty much screwed up. Fortunately for me my major cognitive faculties remained intact but I still have problems with identifying people I've known and recalling memories that involve them. I have done many memory exercices, recollection therapies, and seen some specialists that have helped as much as they could. Now it's all on me to just essentially live with my selfimposed struggle.

At times in my life, I feel like my behavior has had a nuerotoxic effect. After bouts of severe depression and intense addicted hypno sessions I would often have a hard time being able to speak and would feel all my talents, emotions, and even thoughts being stripped away. I lack memories beyond basic knowledge from so much of my life from this. If I had not have such love in my life I would likely be unable to hold employment at the level I currently do due to being unable to function at all due to being mentally and emotionally (and phsyically due to losing dexterity in proportion to my mental degragation).

I feel like I needed to write this, but why I wrote it to you is just because we may have lost years of our lives on different levels, regrowth happens. We live on and our minds heal so that we can find new life with every breeze.

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Aside from the disaster that is my social life, I always tend toward a very toxic combination, that is:

- Perfectionism

- An insatiable crave for novelty.

- Giving up unless instant success is obtained, which of course never lasts for much time.

This makes me wander from one hobby to another, and leads to nothing but dissatisfaction. At the end of the day I'm still unskilled, ignorant, and ultimately a failure. I would much rather stick to one thing, but at least get good at it.

On the bright side, I did find the motivation, nine years ago, to go ahead and perfect my skills in English. And today I have this unexplainable feeling that this will end up being the best decision I ever made in my life.

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4 hours ago, Vaer said:

Haha, no worries Wolfie. Although this is indeed helpful for problems with memorization and learning things my problem is with my memory in general. I suffered from an HAI and had some brain damage (lost a fair amount of brain cells). So a lot of my memory is pretty much screwed up. Fortunately for me my major cognitive faculties remained intact but I still have problems with identifying people I've known and recalling memories that involve them. I have done many memory exercices, recollection therapies, and seen some specialists that have helped as much as they could. Now it's all on me to just essentially live with my selfimposed struggle.

Well gosh, I guess I explained the wrong  help seeing as your original post was vague and impersonal and now I see why, that's all a bit more serious than a little bit of struggle with memory.

Just keep at it Vaer, I still dont know much about you regarding personal bits but the bit and pieces I get are what make me admire you. Cheers mate!

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I guess I'll chime in. I'd say one of my worst qualities is perfectionism. As much as it sounds like one of those subtle humble-brag sort of things, it's really annoying to deal with. I have a lot of trouble finishing any sort of creative work (music, games, etc) because I always start new projects, convinced that what I already have going just isn't good enough. It kind of makes me feel like garbage when I realize I've abandoned a project I've spent hours and hours on, and at that point it's all the harder to get back into it without any passion left.

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Although I consider myself to be a pretty genuine person and can easily express my opinions, the opinionated part of my nature usually ends up getting mistaken for my true self and an easy ability to express how I truly feel in a direct way, which isn't the case. I try anything I can to end up avoiding conflict and I try very hard to seem aloof and like a "go with the flow" type person towards even my close friends (I'd say there's probably only one person I'm really myself around more than most of the time) so that I don't come off as anxious and anal-retentive. In all reality, I am an extremely nervous and nit-picky person who is panicked by very small changes in a plan / schedule and I feel the need to plan things out that I do to a mental checklist, otherwise I'll panic. Basically my issue is that I don't know how to balance between being a casual pushover who will hide any ideas of what I really want in order to just follow along with what other's say, or I'll lock myself up in my house and avoid contact with almost everyone I know. 

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20 minutes ago, pothocket said:

I guess I'll chime in. I'd say one of my worst qualities is perfectionism. As much as it sounds like one of those subtle humble-brag sort of things, it's really annoying to deal with. I have a lot of trouble finishing any sort of creative work (music, games, etc) because I always start new projects, convinced that what I already have going just isn't good enough. It kind of makes me feel like garbage when I realize I've abandoned a project I've spent hours and hours on, and at that point it's all the harder to get back into it without any passion left.

Hot pockets must be perfect after all.

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I've said a lot of things through my life that I regret. I've said some real mean things, some really creepy things, and some really cringy things. I don't really want to talk about it. But hey, it's better to regret something you have done then something you haven't done.

On 2/28/2016 at 5:32 PM, Amiir said:

I don't have any. I'm perfect.

 

Hahaha. Ha.

So narcissism. :^)

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8 hours ago, Kosha said:

So narcissism. :^)

Nah, I was just being sarcastic. I'm not confident enough to the point of narcissism lol

 

 

While I'm at it I'm gonna say that my worst flaw is probably the fact that I am an overly sentimental, emotion driven person. Furthermore, I often take things too seriously and value the opinion others have of me more than mine

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5 minutes ago, Ieono said:

I guess my lack of friends? I can't really seem to form deep bonds with people. :/ 

We should bond over our inability to form deep bonds with people

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