Long distance relationships - Can they be successful?

[Moogle]

This is a pretty common question I'm sure, but I didn't notice a topic surrounding it and am quite curious if there's anyone here who has experience with distanced relationships?

 

I've heard a concern by many tends to be timezones and just generally keeping constant, regular contact. Other than that though, I'm wondering of any other cons (and pros ofc) from having a online partner to eventually seeing them irl. Also I guess for safety reasons, what would be a good timeframe to have known them before you actually meet?

 

Any kind of insight would be greatly appreciated! 

[PastryOfApathy]

I'm in one and it's been going pretty alright for the most part.

We live in the same timezone though, and we knew each other for about 2-ish years beforehand for what that's worth.

[Enigma]

My boyfriend and I were in one before we moved in together. He just moved in almost 3 weeks ago. It was nearly a year before we moved in together. We were fourteen hundred miles apart and about we didn't meet in person until 9 months into our relationship.

I've been in a few other distant relationships that didn't work out. It takes a lot of work from both people keep it going. 

I don't know now how to define a distant relationship as 'successful' though. Is it until it isnt a distant relationship or is it until you've run it course? I suppose it varies on the person.

[#00Buck]

If both people are completely lonely and isolated they seem to stay together. 

If either person has a normal social life and meets new people in person on a regular basis the long distance relationship usually falls apart in a matter of months. Usually due to one of the people finding someone to be with in person.

As for meeting people from the internet I usually do it about a week or two after starting to talk to them. Then again this isn't really normal and when I meet them I spend half my time worrying if they are going to murder me an throw my dead body into a ditch by the side of the road. 

I think no matter how long you've known them you're never safe. Be careful, have an escape plan, and be ready to fight your way out if you have to. 

[PastryOfApathy]

28 minutes ago, #00Buck said:

If both people are completely lonely and isolated they seem to stay together. 

If either person has a normal social life and meets new people in person on a regular basis the long distance relationship usually falls apart in a matter of months. Usually due to one of the people finding someone to be with in person.

I think it depends on the "deepness" of the relationship, and how serious you take it.

Like if a LDR falls apart in like 2 months because they "found someone else in person", then it wasn't gonna last to begin with.

[Chrysocyon]

I'm in one at the moment for four months now and going pretty good, with hopes of meeting irl somewhere down the line. Traveling is a huge expense though and finding time off work is difficult, but would like to live together eventually. We're both not very social so online works for now. The worst part is timezones, being seven hours apart, and lack of physical contact, especially when I turned away irl relationships to be faithful to this long-distance relationship.

[Osrik]

I haven't been in one, but I had a friend who was in a long distance relationship for over 3 years (as far as i know they are still together) with someone in Israel. They had visited each other on a few occasions and kept in pretty much constant contact through Skype and texting, and watched movies or played games with each other on a daily basis.

So, with that as an example, it would seem to me that if you are able to maintain contact and have enough in common even a relationship half a world away can be made to work (though obviously this is just observation, can't talk from any experience myself).

[Sidewalk Surfboard]

I've been in 3 relationships, and 2 of them have been long distance. None of them lasted more than 3 months.

 

 

 

[Revates]

I'm currently in a long distance relationship of 5 months, I live 14hrs ahead of him and 14500 kilometers apart. But honestly it's not a huge problem, we find plenty of time for each other and I can normally talk to him every chance I get. I've never been happier in a relationship and we have plans to try meet up in november/december. So I'd consider our relationship is going well. :3

[Falaffel]

56 minutes ago, #00Buck said:

If both people are completely lonely and isolated they seem to stay together. 

If either person has a normal social life and meets new people in person on a regular basis the long distance relationship usually falls apart in a matter of months. Usually due to one of the people finding someone to be with in person.

I'm going to agree with Pastry, in that in depends on the deepness of the relationship.

People do not always just go to LDRs because they're "incapable of finding one in real life". That's actually rather insulting. No, it's rather because people can much easier connect to one another online. I don't know about you, but I'm hardly myself IRL. I've been in 2 RL relationships, one of which got way worse the more open about ourselves we got. Right? I've also been in 2 LDRs. Both of those I've had an astounding time in. Some of my favorite memories were with them. 

The point I am making is that LDRs can form, not because two nerds are just too lonely, but because of the nature of the internet that allows people to be themselves. People can find other similar people far easier online. 

So, do not assume that you are right in your words. They may be true in some cases, but in those cases, it was a pretty shitty relationship to begin with, eh? 

TL;DR - I am fucking TRIGGERED

 

As for a few of my thoughts, LDRs can absolutely work, even with different timezones. They just have to be done right. Figure out when you can talk and always be open and honest with them. Do what you can together. Make plans for the future. Have fun. It's not honestly that hard. 

[grassfed]

I would imagine its greatly dependent on the individuals involved. I personally dont think I would do well with a long distance relationship, but others can handle that no problem. I'm not really big on open relationships either so my mind would constantly be worrying about the other person fully committing to the relationship and not talking/messing around with someone else. Wouldnt be good for my anxiety lol but like I said, it probably just depends on the people in the relationship. I know it works out for a good number of people.

[Vae]

LDRs tend to work out pretty well if you aren't too physically needy, of which I am not.

In my particular instance, I was friends with Ariel for like 5 or 6 years before we started dating, and then we dated for a year before I came out here.
And we've been together for 10 years since then.

So eh, it just depends on the people.
I certainly think it's risky to rush things, which some people want to do. The only reason I trusted Ariel so much is, again, I was good friends with him for around 7 years before we met up.

[Feelwell]

1 hour ago, Sidewalk Surfboard said:

I've been in 3 relationships, and 2 of them have been long distance. None of them lasted more than 3 months.

(odd picture)

 

Why is he crying white stuff?

 

I'd think they could work out. The feelings are still real, generally.

The internet is great for finding new people, and not all of them are murderers or trolls.

Just most of them.

[#00Buck]

1 hour ago, PastryOfApathy said:

I think it depends on the "deepness" of the relationship, and how serious you take it.

Like if a LDR falls apart in like 2 months because they "found someone else in person", then it wasn't gonna last to begin with.

Most relationships of all types don't last. That's the nature of relationships.

Over 50% of marriages end in divorce. That pretty much says it all.  

Everything I've seen indicates that the long distance thing only works for people who are lonely and socially isolated from people in person.

That's not an insult it's just an observation. 

 

[Xaende]

LDRs can work, but they're not for everyone. How successful they are depends on the people involved and the circumstances.

For safety, I would meet in public the first few times, and let friends & family know where you will be. In my opinion, you should meet as soon as it's convenient, to verify that they actually are who they claim to be.

My last LDR started as an online friendship, but we didn't actually start dating until we met in person. We were together for about a week before she had to leave, at which point it became a true LDR. The relationship eventually fell apart for other reasons.

 

4 hours ago, #00Buck said:

Most relationships of all types don't last. That's the nature of relationships.

Agreed. If a long distance relationship fails, it isn't necessarily because of the distance. More likely, it's due to incompatibility.

[Sarcastic Coffeecup]

I am in one. Two hours difference in time zones, flying is relatively cheap so it's not that big of an issue.

It's a no-brainer that people would rather be in-person all the time, such is the case with all LDRs. It takes a lot of willpower not to fall apart by inability to hug, touch, kiss or have sex with the person you love. If you can manage that you're off to a good start.

Secondly you need trust and compatibility so as to not be afraid whenever your partner meets new people, talks to them etc. You can't hog the person all the time and people are social creatures, they need to be able to socialise in some way. Being a self depreciative person this was a bit of an obstacle. "I'm not worth it, they're gonna find someone else" was pretty common for me until I talked of it and they felt the same way. Just have some trust, it'll be good. If you can keep yourself in check, why couldn't they?

We talk every day on normiebook, and when the internet allows it and there's time, on skype. Communication is key.

Being with this person has been the best time of my life, and I wish it never ended. As soon as my studies are over I will move in together unless something disastrous happens.

Basically LDR just requires a lot of trust, willpower and genuine desire to be with this person.

 

PS: I am a bit offended by 00Buck's comment that basically only NEETs and hermits can make it work. That is utter bullshit and you're probably just mirroring your own failed experiences to it.

[Eggdodger]

My experiences with RL relationships have made me confident that I don't need or even want to be physical with somebody the first few months we date. It feels gross and too prone to what I call a fast-burning wick... I seemingly attract very sexually aggressive people (mostly girls) that will lose interest after they get what they want or figure out they won't get it. At least with an LDR I can scout out who likes me as a person and appreciates the value of delayed gratification, plus the extra safety net of them not being able to contact me at all if I don't want them to. I think I much prefer long-distance relationships because it's not so weird not wanting someone to touch you when they can't to begin with. I understand it's a little harder for some people and the amount of people willing to do an LDR isn't large, but it'll be worth it in the long run for the sake of my happiness and peace of mind.

[PastryOfApathy]

6 hours ago, #00Buck said:

Most relationships of all types don't last. That's the nature of relationships.

Over 50% of marriages end in divorce. That pretty much says it all. 

Well, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

I might come off as cynical sometimes (since generally I am), but this is the one thing I'd like to be optimistic about.

[Eggdodger]

11 minutes ago, PastryOfApathy said:

I might come off as cynical sometimes (since generally I am), but this is the one thing I'd like to be optimistic about.

The alternative is going into relationships bemoaning their inevitable end, and we all know that's sexy as hell.

[#00Buck]

3 hours ago, Sarcastic Coffeecup said:

PS: I am a bit offended by 00Buck's comment that basically only NEETs and hermits can make it work. That is utter bullshit and you're probably just mirroring your own failed experiences to it.

It's sad that you believe that my life experience exists just to offend you. 

Based on your comment you must be wonderful to be in a relationship with.

Clearly you're not bitter or angry at all. 

1 hour ago, PastryOfApathy said:

Well, you miss 100% of the shots you don't take.

I might come off as cynical sometimes (since generally I am), but this is the one thing I'd like to be optimistic about.

Aww Pastry. Your LDR with me is just right. 

[JegoLego]

My long-distance relationships weren't technically successful, but my short-distance relationships have left mental/emotional scars

that doesn't mean i'll stop trying tho

[FenrirDarkWolf]

Judging from experience, I think sometimes the risk of a LDR is worth it, especially if you're both dedicated to making it work.

All of mine never really ended because of "someone else", but due to personal problems arising from mostly myself...

I've been in one with Sparta for about 5 months and I do plan on meeting him when I have the money while he's at uni. 2 hours apart, but we make it work pretty well.

[DrDingo]

Here's my thoughts on the subject

Yes, they can work. Especially if you're able to travel to meet each other, because then you have the perfect mix of meet-ups and personal space

However, it does not always work and you should not bank on it working.

The above statement becomes more true the further apart you are. Every inter-country LDR I've ever seen has failed.

[#00Buck]

2 hours ago, DrDingo said:

Here's my thoughts on the subject

Yes, they can work. Especially if you're able to travel to meet each other, because then you have the perfect mix of meet-ups and personal space

However, it does not always work and you should not bank on it working.

The above statement becomes more true the further apart you are. Every inter-country LDR I've ever seen has failed.

I'll just sit here and wait for someone to post about how this is BS and that you're just projecting your own failed experiences onto others. 

(I totally agree with you though)

[Moogle]

14 hours ago, Enigma said:

I don't know now how to define a distant relationship as 'successful' though. Is it until it isnt a distant relationship or is it until you've run it course? I suppose it varies on the person.

Ah yeah sorry I didn't clarify, basically until the LDR is no longer. So I guess when the 2 move in together and carry it on as a regular relationship - that would be successful in my books.

 

14 hours ago, #00Buck said:

As for meeting people from the internet I usually do it about a week or two after starting to talk to them. Then again this isn't really normal and when I meet them I spend half my time worrying if they are going to murder me an throw my dead body into a ditch by the side of the road. 

I think no matter how long you've known them you're never safe. Be careful, have an escape plan, and be ready to fight your way out if you have to. 

That's a bit worrisome to have to think like that, especially when meeting someone you thought you knew pretty well. But yeah, always better to be safe than sorry! I'll definitely keep this in mind. I'd like to think I know him quite well though - enough to trust that nothing terrible would end up happening given that it's been a little over a year and we've spoken quite deeply in that amount of time.

 

12 hours ago, Falaffel said:

No, it's rather because people can much easier connect to one another online. I don't know about you, but I'm hardly myself IRL.
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As for a few of my thoughts, LDRs can absolutely work, even with different timezones. They just have to be done right. Figure out when you can talk and always be open and honest with them. Do what you can together. Make plans for the future. Have fun. It's not honestly that hard. 

Spot on (at least for me) in that it's easier to be yourself online and to open up to others better. We communicate by email mostly, although I do have his cell for texting so keeping contact isn't really an issue. The biggest is the distance between us and how long it'd be before we'd ever even visit eachother. But seeing others on here say they've managed is a good sign at least, knowing that if the effort is put in it's possible.
 

7 hours ago, Sarcastic Coffeecup said:

I am in one. Two hours difference in time zones, flying is relatively cheap so it's not that big of an issue.

It's a no-brainer that people would rather be in-person all the time, such is the case with all LDRs. It takes a lot of willpower not to fall apart by inability to hug, touch, kiss or have sex with the person you love. If you can manage that you're off to a good start.

Secondly you need trust and compatibility so as to not be afraid whenever your partner meets new people, talks to them etc. You can't hog the person all the time and people are social creatures, they need to be able to socialise in some way. Being a self depreciative person this was a bit of an obstacle. "I'm not worth it, they're gonna find someone else" was pretty common for me until I talked of it and they felt the same way. Just have some trust, it'll be good. If you can keep yourself in check, why couldn't they?

We talk every day on normiebook, and when the internet allows it and there's time, on skype. Communication is key.

Being with this person has been the best time of my life, and I wish it never ended. As soon as my studies are over I will move in together unless something disastrous happens.

Basically LDR just requires a lot of trust, willpower and genuine desire to be with this person.

 

PS: I am a bit offended by 00Buck's comment that basically only NEETs and hermits can make it work. That is utter bullshit and you're probably just mirroring your own failed experiences to it.

Gosh, you sound like you've got everything planned out and it's super sweet to see someone so confident over their relationship. Really wishing you and your partner the best in finally getting to live together, you definitely deserve it. You've said though that you 'wish it never ended', so were you both together already irl and then went into a LDR?

The trust is definitely there for us, it was more a friendship that gradually became more. We've made sure about the physical stuff too being an issue, and honestly none of us are all that touchy-feeling to begin with. If anything, I think it'd cause a problem when we do finally meet, but that probably won't be for a couple of years (maybe shorter depending?).

Also I don't think Buck meant any harm by his remark, it's just different strokes for different folks. Here's hoping we all find that special someone.
 

3 hours ago, DrDingo said:

Here's my thoughts on the subject

Yes, they can work. Especially if you're able to travel to meet each other, because then you have the perfect mix of meet-ups and personal space

However, it does not always work and you should not bank on it working.

The above statement becomes more true the further apart you are. Every inter-country LDR I've ever seen has failed.

I want to keep a positive outlook on this, but at the back of my head I'm ready for if it does fall apart. Even if that happens, he's made it clear he'd still love to be friends so it wouldn't be a total disaster. We are quite far apart though, like he's on one side of the states while I'm up in Canada.


Thanks for all the input guys! Read over some of these multiple times, gonna make sure to be very open with him. Just keeping my fingers crossed that time doesn't kill our jam.

[Jtrekkie]

I get the impression that long distance relationships are more common in these parts than the general population. At any  rate, any relationship depends on what you make of it.

As I was told once, when you are in a LDR little things have more meaning and you are a lot less likely to argue over petty things. You have to be thankful for everything you are given. Trusting may be hard, but that's normal.

There are some things that are difficult in LDTs that are often taken for granted, touch being one, but also the intimate knowledge about ones life you get by witnessing it. Because you don't have that you have to fill in that hole with something meaningful. And that can very well make a relationship stronger.

[shiy0]

even i, somebody who is one of the most anti-social guys you could ever meet in reallife is in one since four months and that only because i actually planned to talk with this silly dork since a much longer time and wanted to be friends with. wich we never rly got around to until we both learned about discord and a certain channel there. wich ended up in us talking 1on1 after sometime and well here we are now.
timezone and travelingwise, we would like too see eachother oh definetly. but timezone and his new job are somewhat providing akward. where still working on figuring that out, wich i am pretty sure is no problem for us though.
and whats much further down our road? well whenever we can actually settle whats going on in our own lives... hopefully sooner then later, we would like to move in with eachother. wich we both know is a bit too far planned considering that we didnt even meet in reallife till now but,
we both dont rly care about it. because we have faith in eachother and what our future will bring.
no matter what happens we are going to make this work.

[Sarcastic Coffeecup]

@#00Buck you flatter yourself.

The reason I dislike your post is that you say only dysfunctional people can make it work. As me and others are in working LDRs you imply we all are dysfunctional people. 

@Moogle I wrote that in the middle of the night, might've fucked up grammar a bit but it is still ongoing and fine!

[GemWolf]

If you don't want a sex life with your partner, then yes LDR's can work just fine.

As for me, I like gettin 'jiggy wit it' with my lover so, it's a no thanks for me.

Each to their own though. As long as the two people make eachother happy then who cares 

[Falaffel]

6 hours ago, #00Buck said:

I'll just sit here and wait for someone to post about how this is BS and that you're just projecting your own failed experiences onto others. 

(I totally agree with you though)

No. What @DrDingo is saying has truth to it. He also isn't both being insulting and presumptuous like you.

I honestly don't disagree with DrDingo all that much. I've seen them fail, I've seen them succeed. To me, it seems to depend on the people involved, how much they care for each other, and how they handle the relationship. 

By the way, when everyone disregards what you say except for 1 or 2 people that just straight up say you're wrong. It's way more likely you're the one wrong person rather than the only right person. 

[Guest]

Yes! With a lot of hard work, lots of communication, patience and love, almost any LDR can work with the wonderful tech available to us today! 

[Vallium]

13 hours ago, DrDingo said:

Here's my thoughts on the subject

Yes, they can work. Especially if you're able to travel to meet each other, because then you have the perfect mix of meet-ups and personal space

However, it does not always work and you should not bank on it working.

The above statement becomes more true the further apart you are. Every inter-country LDR I've ever seen has failed.

Right on, Dingo mate, LDR's can be daunting due to the liklihood of not succeeding, but if both partners are willing to put effort into something it could work . Something like that tends to be more likely to work though if both partners are responsible enough to share responsibility regarding distance, carefully planned meetups may be necessary to ensure things will work .

I think LDR's are more likely to not work with kids and teens who think they can make it work but then dont have the means to see each other, unless theyre strong enough to make it last over the years until theyre stable adults then its not likely

10 hours ago, Jtrekkie said:

I get the impression that long distance relationships are more common in these parts than the general population. At any  rate, any relationship depends on what you make of it.

As I was told once, when you are in a LDR little things have more meaning and you are a lot less likely to argue over petty things. You have to be thankful for everything you are given. Trusting may be hard, but that's normal.

There are some things that are difficult in LDTs that are often taken for granted, touch being one, but also the intimate knowledge about ones life you get by witnessing it. Because you don't have that you have to fill in that hole with something meaningful. And that can very well make a relationship stronger.

Trust is very important, as well as using the time apart to take interest in very the little things on a regular basis to show you care. You dont have the things most people have but in the end if you can care for each other apart, you can definitely care for each other close.

[Moogle]

On 2016-08-10 at 11:27 PM, Jtrekkie said:

There are some things that are difficult in LDTs that are often taken for granted, touch being one, but also the intimate knowledge about ones life you get by witnessing it. Because you don't have that you have to fill in that hole with something meaningful. And that can very well make a relationship stronger.

 

I love that you mentioned this! We started doing that awhile back, but we wanted something which got us more or less experiencing what the other person does. So we take pictures of simple day-to-day stuff, and I just adore it cause it forces me to go out of my way for a second to do something for him - even if it's from miles & miles away.

 

One of the pictures I really liked that he took was of his college & the class he was attending. It was massive, but he was shocked that I was more interested in the colour palette of the place rather than the size which he seemed to really flaunt over. Small things like this I think are best cherished - his response definitely was unexpected but funny. 

[Strongbob]

Can they work?  Sure, but statistically is probably 50/50.

[Vallium]

17 minutes ago, Moogle said:

-mention-

So who's the lucky guy, Moog? How'd ya meet?

(Assuming that info isnt confidential or anything)

[Strongbob]

4 minutes ago, 6tails said:

If these numbers are to be believed,..

http://www.longdistancerelationshipstatistics.com/

Probably a bit more skewed to the LDR not working out, if 10% of marriages in the USA started out as an LDR..

Wow, I pulled that 50/50 stat out of my ass.  I must be a Stats From My Ass God!

 

"Quick stats

4.5 months – the average time before a long distance relationship breaks down

40 % of all long distance relationships ends with a break-up

70 % of all failed long distance relationships fails due to unplanned changes"

 

 

 

 

[#00Buck]

18 hours ago, Sarcastic Coffeecup said:

@#00Buck you flatter yourself.

The reason I dislike your post is that you say only dysfunctional people can make it work. As me and others are in working LDRs you imply we all are dysfunctional people. 

@Moogle I wrote that in the middle of the night, might've fucked up grammar a bit but it is still ongoing and fine!

I never said that.

This is what I said.

On August 10, 2016 at 9:03 AM, #00Buck said:

If both people are completely lonely and isolated they seem to stay together. 

If either person has a normal social life and meets new people in person on a regular basis the long distance relationship usually falls apart in a matter of months. Usually due to one of the people finding someone to be with in person.

As for meeting people from the internet I usually do it about a week or two after starting to talk to them. Then again this isn't really normal and when I meet them I spend half my time worrying if they are going to murder me an throw my dead body into a ditch by the side of the road. 

I think no matter how long you've known them you're never safe. Be careful, have an escape plan, and be ready to fight your way out if you have to. 

Show me where I said only dysfunctional people can make it work. 

You're the one doing all the projecting. 

[Mapa]

On 8/10/2016 at 9:03 AM, #00Buck said:

If either person has a normal social life and meets new people in person on a regular basis the long distance relationship usually falls apart in a matter of months. Usually due to one of the people finding someone to be with in person.

This implies that if the relationship doesn't fall apart within a few months, then both parties likely don't have normal social lives. Whether or not you actually believe that, your post did come off that way.

[#00Buck]

Just now, pothocket said:

This implies that if the relationship doesn't fall apart within a few months, then both parties likely don't have normal social lives. Whether or not you actually believe that, your post did come off that way.

I said usually. I didn't say always. Again this is what I have observed in life. My observations of life are not engineered to insult other people. 

Also TBH I doubt most people on this forum have anything approaching a normal social life. Everyone here is a furry. 

Someone else started off by accusing me of projecting my own failed long distance relationships onto this thread. 

Which is BS since I don't have any long distance relationships period. 

[Brazen]

5 minutes ago, #00Buck said:

Also TBH I doubt most people on this forum have anything approaching a normal social life. Everyone here is a furry. 

Wew. I wouldn't say that. 

8 minutes ago, #00Buck said:

Someone else started off by accusing me of projecting my own failed long distance relationships onto this thread. 

Which is BS since I don't have any long distance relationships period. 

I fixed this for you.

[#00Buck]

2 minutes ago, Brazen said:

Wew. I wouldn't say that. 

I fixed this for you.

That's a keen "edge" you've got there. 

Did it come in a fedora? 

[Brazen]

Just now, #00Buck said:

That's a keen "edge" you've got there. 

Did it come in a fedora? 

Sorry buck. I forgot how smooth you were with the ladies. They just can't help how intelligent and well spoken you are. Like, cripes. Look at that insult. I must have been thinking of @Pignog. I get you two confused sometimes. 

[#00Buck]

1 minute ago, Brazen said:

Sorry buck. I forgot how smooth you were with the ladies. They just can't help how intelligent and well spoken you are. Like, cripes. Look at that insult. I must have been thinking of @Pignog. I get you two confused sometimes. 

I came to dis you for the likes. 

I stayed for the ladies. 

 

[Tsuujou]

15 minutes ago, Brazen said:

 

I clicked on the wrong thread and this image was the first thing I saw. I'm so glad I misclicked...

[PastryOfApathy]

26 minutes ago, Brazen said:

brass get out of my house

[Kalmor]

Over a year and a bit going strong with my SO currently. It's a little bit easier for us since we're far away in terms of latitude rather than longitude on the earth so he's only 1 hour ahead despite being almost 10,000 miles away (South Africa). 

[Butters]

Depends on time, distance, and patience honestly. 

 

[#00Buck]

On August 12, 2016 at 0:08 AM, Kalmor said:

Over a year and a bit going strong with my SO currently. It's a little bit easier for us since we're far away in terms of latitude rather than longitude on the earth so he's only 1 hour ahead despite being almost 10,000 miles away (South Africa). 

 

[Luka]

Ooh, I'd love to marry a foreigner from a nice country.

[Moogle]

On August 11, 2016 at 10:27 AM, WolfNightV4X1 said:

So who's the lucky guy, Moog? How'd ya meet?

(Assuming that info isnt confidential or anything)

(Oh boy, I'm definitely the one who's lucky between the both of us haha! xD)

 

I met him through one of the forums I'm on (he's sadly not within' this community). He just started pming me over my avatar one day and not long after we both used each other to vent to - realized we had quite a bit in common! Pretty much snowballed from there, and we've been quite close since. Nothing extravagant or romantic, but it worked out. 

 

On August 11, 2016 at 10:52 AM, Strongbob said:

Wow, I pulled that 50/50 stat out of my ass.  I must be a Stats From My Ass God!

 

"Quick stats

4.5 months – the average time before a long distance relationship breaks down

40 % of all long distance relationships ends with a break-up

70 % of all failed long distance relationships fails due to unplanned changes"

 

 

 

 

 

Ouch, those odds.. x_x Unplanned changes though? I would have thought just distance alone would be the bigger % when it comes to the reason why behind half those break ups.