U-235 Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 Hey good friends, So I've got a friend group, who I refer to as the dynamic six (me included in that six) and it's a very close knit group of friends I met back at my previous college, Berry college, my freshmen and sophomore year. The other five came over, including one of the friends fiance and we were hanging out all Saturday and Sunday. We're a fairly weird group of people. Well not weird, but we're pretty diverse (in terms of religion, as an example, Jewish, Atheist, Catholic, Protestant are all represented). So I decided last night, though I will admit I was drunk, to tell my friends about my interest as a furry. I wasn't really sure what to expect, though I kind of suspected they'd be entirely fine with it, and they were all very supportive. Actually one of them later told me they suspected it for about a year. Not sure how since I wasn't even involved in the fandom at that point, but they're a people person so I guess they can read that kind of thing. Anyway I just wanted to share the good news and I'm glad that's at least over with. They're really the main people I'd want to know anyway seeing as they're some of the most important people in my life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vitaly Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 11 minutes ago, U-235 said: I decided last night, though I will admit I was drunk, to tell my friends about my interest as a furry. You're walking on very thin ice, mister. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
U-235 Posted December 19, 2016 Author Share Posted December 19, 2016 2 minutes ago, Vitaly said: You're walking on very thin ice, mister. In most cases true, but in this instance, I knew they'd be okay with it. Maybe ask some questions at most, but they're close enough friends that I'd trust them with anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LazerMaster5 Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 Just remember, your hobby is only as big of a deal as you let it be. Your average person does not know/care about furries enough to where you will have issues. No need to treat it like coming out as gay. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
U-235 Posted December 19, 2016 Author Share Posted December 19, 2016 3 minutes ago, LazerMaster5 said: Just remember, your hobby is only as big of a deal as you let it be. Your average person does not know/care about furries enough to where you will have issues. No need to treat it like coming out as gay. I mean I don't treat it the same as coming out as gay, I already know what that's like. But it's still a bit of a taboo to some people. It's not really coming out, as it's more just trying to ensure it doesn't change dynamics. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FlynnCoyote Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 I let everyone I know via facebook a couple years back that I was a furry. The friends closest to me know that I draw some weird shit, furry or not. They don't want to see it, but they know I do it and it doesn't bother them. I went forward with it unafraid, Mostly because the peoples' opinions that I value most know full well that I have no problems with telling people to get fucked if they disapprove of my choices. It's quite liberating when you have nothing to hide and don;t have to come up with lame excuses for the things you post sometimes. Good on you for taking this step. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shiro Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 40 minutes ago, U-235 said: I mean I don't treat it the same as coming out as gay, I already know what that's like. But it's still a bit of a taboo to some people. It's not really coming out, as it's more just trying to ensure it doesn't change dynamics. It's like you said before, if your friends are true friends, then the fact that you are a furry is naught but a trivial matter. Even if it's taboo to some, it's just a hobby, maybe even less than that, assuming you treat it as such. In the end, that's all it is, a hobby, a personal interest, and those who fuss about your or anyone's involvement in a hobby isn't worthy of your time or attention. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vae Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 I really don't understand why people put emphasis on this kind of thing like it's a defining aspect, unless their personality has all the depth of a puddle. Either pushing it outward and feeling the need to "come out" about it, or acting like the sky is falling if they get ribbed over it. Like, are people this fucking devoid of anything interesting, that a fandom about cartoon animals is the important one? People IRL do not know I'm a furry just because it's not important. Not to me, and not to them. And if they found out, and if they disapproved, it wouldn't matter. Because I have a fuckton of other redeeming qualities amongst my social relationships, and they know that, and I know that. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FlynnCoyote Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 11 minutes ago, Vae said: I really don't understand why people put emphasis on this kind of thing like it's a defining aspect, unless their personality has all the depth of a puddle. Either pushing it outward and feeling the need to "come out" about it, or acting like the sky is falling if they get ribbed over it. Like, are people this fucking devoid of anything interesting, that a fandom about cartoon animals is the important one? People IRL do not know I'm a furry just because it's not important. Not to me, and not to them. And if they found out, and if they disapproved, it wouldn't matter. Because I have a fuckton of other redeeming qualities amongst my social relationships, and they know that, and I know that. It's not about personality or any of that at all. The furry fandom has a heavy stigma attached to it in many online circles and those of us who dedicate a decent portion of our time to online interactions are more aware of that than most. Not knowing if any of your RL friends have similar online interactions in their own circles can instill the fear of that same stigma in places where it may or may not have any actual influence. It's just the willingness to shed the feeling of having to hide it, even if that fear is misplaced, that a lot of people will struggle with. We know there's nothing wrong with our interests, but others we know may have different, if not fully informed opinions that we are unaware and/or afraid of. It's easy to say it's not a big deal, but like many things the actions aren't always as easy to live up to as the words. Not everyone has friends or family who aren't judgemental. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
U-235 Posted December 19, 2016 Author Share Posted December 19, 2016 24 minutes ago, Vae said: I really don't understand why people put emphasis on this kind of thing like it's a defining aspect, unless their personality has all the depth of a puddle. Either pushing it outward and feeling the need to "come out" about it, or acting like the sky is falling if they get ribbed over it. Like, are people this fucking devoid of anything interesting, that a fandom about cartoon animals is the important one? People IRL do not know I'm a furry just because it's not important. Not to me, and not to them. And if they found out, and if they disapproved, it wouldn't matter. Because I have a fuckton of other redeeming qualities amongst my social relationships, and they know that, and I know that. It's not a defining aspect of who I am. Yes I do identify as a furry by association with the furry fandom and because it is a creative outlet for me as a person, but it's not something that is a defining trait of me as a person. There are other things I'd go to for that. However, like all hobbies, it does shape me as a person. In addition if it's something I'm wanting to have artwork commissioned for and one day get a fursuit and attend conventions for, it undoubtedly holds some significance to me. Because of that, it's something I'd like to have IRL friends to be able to talk about it with. Not in a way of trying to convince them to join it or anything along those lines, but just get feedback and share experiences with. I like to write a lot and I've written a novel. I have another friend in the dynamic six who is currently working on her novel and we like to talk to each other about our experiences as authors, our writing styles, what we find works and doesn't work, and things like that. Similarly, I'd like to talk to my friends about this kind of stuff in a similar way. Granted none of them are furries, but it'd be fun to show them some of the stuff related to my character and maybe even have one of them go to a con with so I won't go alone. They'd go more though out of interest and from an outsider viewpoint. The main thing about this fandom though, as @FlynnCoyote pointed out, is that there is a heavy stigma attached to it. All of my friends are aware of the fandom, and I knew this, but I just didn't entirely know what they thought of it or what they knew about it. Because I highly value their opinions because they're so close to me, naturally some fear was instilled into me. And as a I explained previously, this is something that, though not a defining trait of me as a person, does matter to me and that I enjoy being a part of, so I wanted to share that information with my close friends. So no, it's not a coming out experience, but it's a hobby that matters to me and that I'd prefer my friends know about my involvement in. Of course I don't have to tell them, but then it means I won't get to tell them about a great time at a con I had, or ask for an opinion on art work, or show them a fursuit when I'm to get one. It's just about sharing experiences and being closer as friends. That's how I understand and view it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FenrirDarkWolf Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 I saw the thread title and thought we were talking about pp, p, mp, mf, f, ff.. And maybe even ppp and fff. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
U-235 Posted December 19, 2016 Author Share Posted December 19, 2016 10 hours ago, FenrirDarkWolf said: I saw the thread title and thought we were talking about pp, p, mp, mf, f, ff.. And maybe even ppp and fff. What does pp,p,mp,ppp even stand for? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrDingo Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 Here's the thing about being a furry As a new member, you might think the whole thing is really trivial and controversial, but in truth nobody knows or cares what it is You're fine. Nothing bad will happen unless you shove it upon them Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FenrirDarkWolf Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 3 hours ago, U-235 said: What does pp,p,mp,ppp even stand for? they're music dynamics, or volume (pianissimo, piano, mezzo-piano, and pianississimo. All are varying degrees of soft; really soft, soft, medium soft, and softest, respectively) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vallium Posted December 19, 2016 Share Posted December 19, 2016 Personally I dont go out of my way to tell anyone Im a furry, I've yet to meet anyone I've told. The few who guessed based on my animal drawings seem a little weirded out I shrug it off and say I also like anime, cartoons, fantasy/sci fi...playing it up as another aspect of myself in liking the creative arts. Even though Im deeply entrenched in the furry arts, its because it carries my deep fascination of animals and comic, fantasy, or other aspects and wraps it up in one. Nothing special, just some things I like. Congrats on having such a nice group. I used to have that...I miss it. Hanging out with a group of friends where we genuinely love all of each others company, being included, having a good time. Its a nice feeling. ...actually now that I remember none of my friends in that group were furfags, mainly weeaboo tards and generic nerds. They actually didnt like the furry thing much at all, they think the animal porn aspect of it is creepy. I never went into much detail on it anyway, I just said I like it and have a fursona and stuff, this again mostly came out in my drawings and interest rather than me speaking of it. Despite their negative interest in furry shiz, they still respected and admired me, I became the but of jokes and a "pet" though :V TL;DR regardless of perceptions friends will be friends no matter what dumb interests you have 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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