Butters Posted October 6, 2015 Share Posted October 6, 2015 Cummin in. ;3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vae Posted October 6, 2015 Share Posted October 6, 2015 (edited) I've recently come to terms with the fact that I'm probably pansexual. With a stronger leaning towards androgynous partners in particular.But I also completely lose my sex drive for chunks of years at a time?So I guess I fall somewhere between gray-ace and pan. If that makes any sense.I don't really see a point to "coming out" to the people in my life, just because it's irrelevant to them. I don't want to get with any of them in particular, and I'm sure my husband would just start shit with me over it, so there's not much pointI'm also, on some level, genderfluid. I want to get a binder and present myself as a male one of these days, but I've been abstaining from doing so because I'm at least 120% certain my husband, at the very least, would be an asshole about it.Also because of the cost, but that's a lesser issue. Edited October 6, 2015 by Vae Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imperial Impact Posted October 6, 2015 Share Posted October 6, 2015 Hot stuff cumming through Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 6, 2015 Share Posted October 6, 2015 biLucky bastard Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Augmented Husky Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 (edited) Homecoming is just around the corner and I'm actually a bit happy about that but it still raised the fact of my asexuality here and then in my head. Not ashamed in the least in fact I'm very proud of it having come to terms with it personally. However I don't think I'll ever tell my parents until I'm out of the house and on my own as an Adult.I may have hinted it to them sarcastically like when saying "What if I don't get married ?" In which case they laugh and that's good. But still my mom like most wants grandkids so there's that of course to deal with. Right now telling them would do nothing good or they more than likely say its just a phase and you'll find the right "one" someday...It's not that concerning to me really. Mostly venting tis all. Edited October 7, 2015 by Augmented Husky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dijon Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 I actually can't remember my parents ever bringing up me having kids which is a little surprising because I'm getting old. Maybe I just don't remember. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hewge Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 I actually can't remember my parents ever bringing up me having kids which is a little surprising because I'm getting old. Maybe I just don't remember. Who needs to remember? Remembering is for young punksAre you a young punk? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monochromatic-Dragon Posted October 7, 2015 Author Share Posted October 7, 2015 Why should your sexual orientation be the final nail in the coffin to whether or not you will end up raising kids? You can like, find those things on the street now or something. Pluck 'em up and raise em as your own. I can understand people not wanting kids, though, either by birthing them or just being opposed to the idea of children all together. They are quite nasty. I don't see it as becoming "rewarding" until the kid is at least school-age or able to stop crapping themself. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dijon Posted October 7, 2015 Share Posted October 7, 2015 Who needs to remember? Remembering is for young punksAre you a young punk?I JUST said that I was oldclearly you are not a young punkWhy should your sexual orientation be the final nail in the coffin to whether or not you will end up raising kids? You can like, find those things on the street now or something. Pluck 'em up and raise em as your own. I can understand people not wanting kids, though, either by birthing them or just being opposed to the idea of children all together. They are quite nasty. I don't see it as becoming "rewarding" until the kid is at least school-age or able to stop crapping themself. children are just tiny people and people are awful Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
#00Buck Posted October 8, 2015 Share Posted October 8, 2015 Cumming out Direct it into the sock. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Clove Darkwave Posted October 9, 2015 Share Posted October 9, 2015 I'm looking into what is supposedly an Informed Consent provider to try and start HRT. So there's that.That along with considering all of the ripple effects and how to deal with them all is a nightmare. Assuming I don't just get gated out somehow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Monochromatic-Dragon Posted November 7, 2015 Author Share Posted November 7, 2015 *dusts this thread off a bit*So I'm maybe probably going to be coming out to my boyfriend as genderqueer, though I'm still questioning my gender identity. Recently I have felt that perhaps I am not female at all. I have never really related to the female gender entirely, although I identify with some feminine aspects of myself (but mostly just want to be more masculine) "male" doesn't quite fit either, but whatever I am seems to be closer to "male" than "female". Its very, very muddled. About coming out to my boyfriend, I'm nervous on how he will take it. I seriously doubt he will react negatively or break up with me or someting like that, but the main reason I have put off on telling him is to avoid bringing any additional stress into his already stressful life. I don't want to hold it off any longer, though, because omitting things like that only gets worse over time, and I've already had to lie/omit it a lot.On top of that, he doesn't understand gender identity at all. He gets confused when I refer to someone as a trans man/trans woman and can't get over biological sex or the idea of cisnormativity. I'm more worried he won't understand my identity or won't be able to respect it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imperial Impact Posted November 7, 2015 Share Posted November 7, 2015 Cumming and going Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aouzy Posted November 7, 2015 Share Posted November 7, 2015 I don't think I would ever come out as bi to my family. If I ever happen to get an RL boyfriend, I'll just tell them I'm hanging out at a friend's house. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sourdough Posted November 7, 2015 Share Posted November 7, 2015 Don't worry so much, be okay with yourself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Azu Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 I've accepted myself as bisexual with a male preference many years ago. I've never consciously sat down and said "Okay, today I'm going to come out to <person>!" - Its just kind of slipped out in casual conversation, or I've implied it one way or another, and the other person is like "Ah, alright" so, that's what I'm used to in terms of 'coming out'When it comes to my parents, they don't know about it yet. But I haven't felt compelled to let them know. I'm not afraid of negative reactions, given that they are accepting, but what I am afraid of is having my sexuality, and / or my 'coming out' being made into a big deal, when it really isn't. It's just a small part of me, and I hope that whenever the day comes that they find out about my sexuality, that it'll just be a quick acknowledgement before moving on without lingering on the topic. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brass Posted November 8, 2015 Share Posted November 8, 2015 I want this to be a continuation of the other thread we had on the old FA forums. There is a very long, helpful copypasta there that instead of copy-pasta-ing here I will leave the link to the thread via the "wayback machine" (https://web.archive.org/web/20110602131647/http://forums.furaffinity.net/threads/31826-Coming-Out-The-Thread)This thread is for people to discuss coming out as LGBTAQ+. This should be considered a "safe place" within the forum rules for people to come out, receive advice and support for coming out or to tell their stories. Please note that this thread is not about "coming out" as furry. For some reason, it was a common misconception in the past. Good. GOOD. My degenerate list grows ever larger. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LazerMaster5 Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 Somedays I feel bi, some days I feel gay. Ah, sexual confusion. #firstworldproblems #hashtag #fuckyou #whothefuckuseshashtags Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrishaCat Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 (edited) Actually, I mentioned it earlier in this thread but...is there any reason why I should come out as bi to my parents if I'm not dating someone of the same sex? Just wondering. Edited November 9, 2015 by Battlechili 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willow Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 I've only come out to a few people in my family about being the gay transboy that I am because I just don't see the point. I don't plan on coming out to the rest of my family any time soon either unless idk, I start growing a beard or something weird I guess Actually, I mentioned it earlier in this thread but...is there any reason why I should come out as bi to my parents if I'm not dating someone of the same sex? Just wondering. if it's not stressing you out that they don't know, I probably wouldn't worry about it. even if you were dating someone of the same sex, only come out if you're comfortable with it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sidewalk Surfboard Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 Mom, dad, I'm a furry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LazerMaster5 Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 Mom, dad, I'm a furryGet out. The only place you belong is inside a trashcan. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dijon Posted November 9, 2015 Share Posted November 9, 2015 Get out. The only place you belong is inside a trashcan. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imperial Impact Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 I'm twenty-seven and I'm still not out to my parents ahahahabut i'm also single so it doesn't really matter to me until i'm getting ready to settle down.wow Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jerry Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 I've been representing myself as a hybrid for quite some time, but I was maybe sorta-kinda semi-half lying...Please don't flame me for this, in fact.... I...I'M A RACCOON! There, I said it! ;___; LOL more seriously. I'm 22 and still waiting for physical attraction toward someone. I stopped playing the ostrich and accepted the fact it's probably never going to happen. I don't feel the need to come out as an asexual, especially since I'm not pressured by my parents to have someone in my life. They always told me "If you want to be single, then be!" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imperial Impact Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 What should I say? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sidewalk Surfboard Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 What should I say?¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Imperial Impact Posted November 11, 2015 Share Posted November 11, 2015 ¯\_(ツ)_/¯Being Bi is okay?Both my parents are don't know what to say (My dad think both women and gays are shit, But he wants grankids.) .etcMen are become women and vice versa.I still don't take flamers seriously enough and I'm only want jack off to pin up pics. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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