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Oh geez how an gonna explain.

Well i reall start to hate him and his personality. 

He is starting to act rude and childish and never tries to listen to us.

He never wants to listen when we want to explain something to him .

He screams at because i try to explain him how to water a plant right and he doesnt listen to me and calls me stubborn and that i kill the plants.

He only touched the SURFACE of tge earth and the watered. What the heck is wrong with him. I stick my whole finger into the earth and then water because i know that the surface dries out first bit he doesnt want to listen.

Also on somedays he screams at me and my mom for no reason, he is an alcoholic and smoker. He has now problems with his stomach and  bloodpressure.

When we tell him to stop drinking alcohol he screams at us and says he doesnt drink but guys , me and my mom always find small vodka bottles in his bagback or a big bottle vodka in the closet.

One day we had a conflict with him and my brother and aunt where at home and he said he is gonna kill my brother and my poor aunt screamed in fear. 

What triggers me also is that he hugs people he barely knows like we have neigbors and they both have teenager girls and were befriended with them and he also need to hug the teenage girl like she is his bbf , gross.

 

I am slowly really slow starting to build a huge hate towards him.

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Pro-tip, have a thick mulch layer on your soil to keep it from drying out and becoming hydrophobic. Mulch will reduce water usage, increase soil health and allow the roots of your plants to occupy those top couple inches of soil that would normally get beat with the sun and dry out.

Sorry about the dad troubles, I can feel your pain. I haven't spoken to my father in over a year because he's a giant manchild.

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That just really sucks.

 

I'm supposed to tell you to try not to hate him now, but that's not so easy. If you can try to avoid anything that's stressing him that may help a little and limiting your time around him may help you a little. 

 

You said he's starting to act differently, can you think of anything that may be changing? 

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8 hours ago, Hux said:

This is an Oedipus Complex. You must kill your father and fuck your mom. It's the only way...

But to do it right you then need to gouge your own eyes out afterwards.  Oedipus was one fucked up dude.

I don't hate my dad per se, but I certainly don't love him either.  He's a good enough guy, but he's taken to watching Faux news and forwarding conservative propaganda on Facebook all day to occupy his golden years.  He has little interest in spending time with his children or grandchildren has no interest in helping anyone with anything.  What a waste.  

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Oh gosh my father did something gross again -_-

He prepared meat and onions to grill them and gues what, he sneezed and coughed  much while doing it he didnt hold his hand infront of his mouth.

Even though it gets grilled its so gross.

I will just say that i am not hungry.

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Can't pick your family :( Really sucks about the alcohol. I've certainly met people where booze was the thing that ruined a family.

Dunno what you can do. Are your parents divorced? How does the rest of your family feel about your father?

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I've been divorced from my parents for coming on 5 years now and let me tell you my quality of life has gone way up since

pre 18 it's a legal process that never really goes well but post 18 it's basically just you telling them you never want to see them again and ollying outie

idk how old you are, but if you're pre 18 and feel unsafe there's nothing cowardly in arranging to live with grandparents or other relatives for a while. If you need to get the hell out of there there might be options available to you

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2 hours ago, Nova said:

Maybe my father cant zelp himself but i can help, i can help him to change.

Even though i feel like i hate him , i dont have a full feeling of hate.

hun, don't stay around people just because you think they can change

if it's hurting you, you're not obligated to be his steppingstone to being a good person

you're your own person and you need to look out for you

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On July 26, 2016 at 1:14 PM, Nova said:

Oh geez how an gonna explain.

Well i reall start to hate him and his personality. 

He is starting to act rude and childish and never tries to listen to us.

He never wants to listen when we want to explain something to him .

He screams at because i try to explain him how to water a plant right and he doesnt listen to me and calls me stubborn and that i kill the plants.

He only touched the SURFACE of tge earth and the watered. What the heck is wrong with him. I stick my whole finger into the earth and then water because i know that the surface dries out first bit he doesnt want to listen.

Also on somedays he screams at me and my mom for no reason, he is an alcoholic and smoker. He has now problems with his stomach and  bloodpressure.

When we tell him to stop drinking alcohol he screams at us and says he doesnt drink but guys , me and my mom always find small vodka bottles in his bagback or a big bottle vodka in the closet.

One day we had a conflict with him and my brother and aunt where at home and he said he is gonna kill my brother and my poor aunt screamed in fear. 

What triggers me also is that he hugs people he barely knows like we have neigbors and they both have teenager girls and were befriended with them and he also need to hug the teenage girl like she is his bbf , gross.

 

I am slowly really slow starting to build a huge hate towards him.

That sounds bad. 

You need a professional person like a social worker to help you and your mom with this problem. 

If you feel like you need help talk to a professional. There are people in your community that can help. 

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He is going to a cure/kur center for some weeks ( did i wrote right) where he can regenerate and there is no alcohol and cigarettes allowed.

We dont know a exact date when he is going to drive there.

Man his bloodpressure problems were so bad. But he went to a doctor and its slowly stabilizing.

 

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Just now, Nova said:

He is going to a cure/kur center for some weeks ( did i wrote right) where he can regenerate and there is no alcohol and cigarettes allowed.

We dont know a exact date when he is going to drive there.

Man his bloodpressure problems were so bad. But he went to a doctor and its slowly stabilizing.

 

That's good news. Keep in contact with the workers so you know what is going on. 

Things like this need constant attention to get better. 

I hope while he is away you have some time to relax and enjoy life more. 

I like you Nova. I hope you and your family will be okay. 

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