FlynnCoyote Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 Not me. A friend I've known through FA for years left her country on the 10th to fly to another country, there to meet someone she'd formed an online romance with less than a year ago. It is now not even three full days later, and they're married. I mean... This is gonna sound biased because I was crushing on her for so long, but what the actual brain numbing fuck could have been going through their heads? They've met in person once. They haven't lived together. This was supposed to be a one week visit for them to get to know each other in person. It hasn't even been half that. If this was anyone else I wouldn't care. But she's not at all great about her own self confidence, and if this move fails she's going to be in pieces on the other side of an ocean from her home and from me, so I'll be powerless to help. This news was just... really distressing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Enigma Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 I've been in the position of reciprocated love before, it's painful to see someone you care for making unwise choices. The best you can do is be there for them as a friend. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frig Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 Damn, talk about a shotgun wedding..More like an M-134 minigun wedding. I haven't even heard of mail-order waifu marriages happening this fast. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strongbob Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 There is a chance this marriage will work out and everything will be sunshine and roses. It's a very, very small chance, but here's to the power of positive thinking! I guess Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xaende Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 3 days? Yikes. I had an ex girlfriend who married the next guy she dated after only a month or two, and I thought it was crazy. If I hadn't broken up with her, that might have been me. Then again, who's to say what will happen with the right person? Some people know early on, and it works for them. Unfortunately, however, rushing into marriage is rarely a good idea. Sorry to hear that you were crushing on the girl. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DrGravitas Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 Marriage doesn't have quite the set-in-stone finality it used to. I agree that this is s terrible idea, but perhaps falling out of love would be just as quick. Divorces aren't too uncommon these days either, though being in a whole other country is certainly a complication. Now a kid, that would be a whole other story! Still, all the best to you and your friend. Keep in touch with her, if things DO go south, she'll need any support (even just emotional support or advice) she can get. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vallium Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 I agree that it wont be awful, per se? You said less than a year, but almost a year? I dunno, maybe they hit it off quite well and the stretch of long distance puts things into perspective. I dont agree that marrying right away was a good idea, but its not my place to say it cant work. Assuming they're adults and they spent at least a little time together, clearly they know how adult life works, especially if she had the ability to cross country to begin with. But damn...moving an entire country away for one person is a risk move. I dont know what kind of education/employment she has under her belt and friendships, but it is what it is. I personally wouldnt be so hasty in an LDR or relationship myself, but I tend to be a very logical person. I much prefer several visits and an ample amount of time before moving on to a new step. Of course...tying in emotions they dont often coexist with logic, it brings you past reservations you might have because "Fuck it, this feels right" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toshabi Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 You know, a great relationship isn't just about good sex. It's about great sex. She must've passed the test. I'd send them a wedding gift, but Toshabucks went up in value and I need to keep up my toshcash flow. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissFleece Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 My brother and his wife got married after three months and I thought THAT was fast, lol. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Doggo Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 how does anyone actually marry within 3 days vegas? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brazen Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 3 hours ago, MissFleece said: My brother and his wife got married after three months and I thought THAT was fast, lol. When are we getting married nerd? I want 2.5 dogs and a white picket fence Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissFleece Posted July 13, 2016 Share Posted July 13, 2016 Just now, Brazen said: When are we getting married nerd IDK MAN GOSH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FlynnCoyote Posted July 14, 2016 Author Share Posted July 14, 2016 Well she was understandably very hard to get in contact with for a few days there but I managed to get in touch with her last night a few hours after this post. Apparently it was his idea and she agreed but for the most part it was to facilitate easier travel between their two countries. I still think it's a bit rash to enter into a legal contract like this, especially given that it doesn't exactly guarantee anything. But I do feel slightly better knowing that it wasn't just some impulsive emotional decision. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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