Guest Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 Just now, Sidewalk Surfboard said: At least you realize you're being paranoid. He was referring to you actually Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sidewalk Surfboard Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 Just now, Amiir said: He was referring to you actually Oh, I see. I'm not exactly paranoid, it just seems like something he'd do. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FenrirDarkWolf Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sidewalk Surfboard Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 1 minute ago, FenrirDarkWolf said: That's basically me. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuujou Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 Glad we had this talk. I feel we're all closer now as a family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 I'm saddened by the fact that apparently some people deem me too unapproachable to contact me directly. Instead they have to rely on talking behind someone's back with the risk of reinforcing an exaggerated or wrong image of said person. Gossiping only aggravates the problem. I wish that whoever had an issue with me that they approached me directly. Problems are made to be solved, and how can they be if they aren't faced head on? I am hurt when people of here gossip about me because they had enough of an impact for me to care about what they say. If it were unrelatable strangers I wouldn't care, but this is different. I am willing to seek a better mutual understanding and fix whatever unpleasantries may have occurred or that I have even caused personally, I really am, but that's not possible if there's a refusal to confront people directly, just sit down and actually talk. Before brushing off folks that may have made a poor impression on you, please at least speak to them first on a 1 on 1 conversation, just once (unless they did something really, REALLY terrible, like Stalin kind of terrible). Often times, people behave differently depending on whether the circumstances are public or private Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Tsuujou Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 16 minutes ago, Amiir said: I'm saddened by the fact that apparently some people deem me too unapproachable to contact me directly. Instead they have to rely on talking behind someone's back with the risk of reinforcing an exaggerated or wrong image of said person. Gossiping only aggravates the problem. I wish that whoever had a problem with me that they approached me directly. Problems are made to be solved, and how can they be if they aren't faced head on? I am hurt when people of here gossip about me because they had enough of an impact for me to care about what they say. If it were unrelatable strangers to say that I wouldn't care, but this is different. I am willing to seek a better mutual understanding and fix whatever unpleasantries may have occurred, I really am, but that's not possible if there's a refusal to confront people directly, just sit down and actually talk. Before brushing off folks that may have made a poor impression on you, please, at least speak to them first on a 1 on 1 conversation, just once (unless they did something really, REALLY terrible, like Stalin kind of terrible). Often times, people behave differently depending on whether the circumstances are public or private To be honest, the last time I saw someone directly have a problem with you was Vae when you made sexual jokes about her without her consent or something like that. She was very direct and open about it. But you didn't handle it well. EDIT: That's not to say people should talk about you on Discord, but if there's anything to go by when it comes to approaching you, that was a rather big situation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vallium Posted August 5, 2016 Share Posted August 5, 2016 18 minutes ago, Amiir said: I'm saddened by the fact that apparently some people deem me too unapproachable to contact me directly. Instead they have to rely on talking behind someone's back with the risk of reinforcing an exaggerated or wrong image of said person. Gossiping only aggravates the problem. I wish that whoever had an issue with me that they approached me directly. Problems are made to be solved, and how can they be if they aren't faced head on? I am hurt when people of here gossip about me because they had enough of an impact for me to care about what they say. If it were unrelatable strangers I wouldn't care, but this is different. I am willing to seek a better mutual understanding and fix whatever unpleasantries may have occurred or that I have even caused personally, I really am, but that's not possible if there's a refusal to confront people directly, just sit down and actually talk. Before brushing off folks that may have made a poor impression on you, please at least speak to them first on a 1 on 1 conversation, just once (unless they did something really, REALLY terrible, like Stalin kind of terrible). Often times, people behave differently depending on whether the circumstances are public or private I call people out when I see them talking negatively about someone when theyre not around, thats something I wont tolerate. I dont care that they hate them, I care that theyre talking shit without the person knowing, that leads to drama and a terrible image. Talking good behind someones back, however, is something I always stand by Shit like thats happened before on skype too 7 minutes ago, XoPachi said: To be honest, the last time I saw someone directly have a problem with you was Vae when you made sexual jokes about her without her consent or something like that. She was very direct and open about it. But you didn't handle it well. EDIT: That's not to say people should talk about you on Discord, but if there's anything to go by when it comes to approaching you, that was a rather big situation. That was Mara, if I recall... It wasnt a horrible situation and was handled alright Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuujou Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 4 minutes ago, WolfNightV4X1 said: I call people out when I see them talking negatively about someone when theyre not around, thats something I wont tolerate. I dont care that they hate them, I care that theyre talking shit without the person knowing, that leads to drama and a terrible image. Talking good behind someones back, however, is something I always stand by Shit like thats happened before on skype too That was Mara, if I recall... It wasnt a horrible situation and was handled alright It was not Mara. It was Vae and Amiir. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 15 minutes ago, XoPachi said: To be honest, the last time I saw someone directly have a problem with you was Vae when you made sexual jokes about her without her consent or something like that. She was very direct and open about it. But you didn't handle it well. Not exactly: she made a joke once and I misinterpreted it as an attack, but it's true, I didn't handle that very well. On that occasion I attacked and belittled her on an extremely sensitive topic. I regret it but I understand if she doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. I don't blame her, she's justified. It's also true that I have personally caused unwarranted drama with other users for similar misinterpretations on my part in that same period. However, all this happened months ago: I believe I improved enough as a person now to not attack people for no good reason anymore and to be able to engage in constructive conversations. Little by little, I'm improving regardless of people noticing or not 15 minutes ago, XoPachi said: EDIT: That's not to say people should talk about you on Discord, but if there's anything to go by when it comes to approaching you, that was a rather big situation. Yes. That is true Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuujou Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 1 minute ago, Amiir said: Little by little, I'm improving regardless of people noticing or not And that's great to hear! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 12 minutes ago, XoPachi said: And that's great to hear! Thank you. It's not all roses and flowers, there are some setbacks but I see some improvements here and there Edit: Now let's just hope they see all this. Pretty sure they will Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hux Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 12 minutes ago, Amiir said: Thank you. It's not all roses and flowers, there are some setbacks but I see some improvements here and there You seem like a top notch guy, fam. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 3 minutes ago, Hux said: You seem like a top notch guy, fam. Thank you, I try my best Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mapa Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 21 minutes ago, Amiir said: Not exactly: she made a joke once and I misinterpreted it as an attack, but it's true, I didn't handle that very well. On that occasion I attacked and belittled her on an extremely sensitive topic. I regret it but I understand if she doesn't want to have anything to do with me anymore. I don't blame her, she's justified. It's also true that I have personally caused unwarranted drama with other users for similar misinterpretations on my part in that same period. However, all this happened months ago: I believe I improved enough as a person now to not attack people for no good reason anymore and to be able to engage in constructive conversations. Little by little, I'm improving regardless of people noticing or not Yes. That is true > Admitting you have a problem > Actually making efforts to fix it You don't belong on the internet. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrishaCat Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 People are saying that its better to talk shit on a public forum than behind people's bad, but would it not be even better to just not speak ill of others? To try and see the good in others? Note that I'm not saying you shouldn't tell someone off for acting dumb or being rude or doing something wrong, but its possible to do so without coming off as downright mean, and talking about people on a public forum can still be rather hurtful if not said directly to someone. I would encourage people to just try and politely explain when someone does something wrong without coming off as babying to help try and get and understanding between users and improve as people on the whole. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toshabi Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 1 hour ago, XoPachi said: Regardless of what took place in Discord, Saxon couldn't handle what he dished out in the open. He frequently got in users faces when it wasn't warranted and criticized them. When it was returned he took the extreme route and vanished which leads me to assume he didn't expect opposition where he caused it. I don't hate him or wish him ill will, but I can't pity him. That was his choice. Toshabi Rumor (98.10% accuracy rating) Saxon got so upset over what one user said that he ate his hands and is unable to type on forums anymore. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 3 minutes ago, pothocket said: > Admitting you have a problem > Actually making efforts to fix it You don't belong on the internet. Thank you so much. Again, I try my best 4 minutes ago, Battlechili said: People are saying that its better to talk shit on a public forum than behind people's bad, but would it not be even better to just not speak ill of others? To try and see the good in others? Note that I'm not saying you shouldn't tell someone off for acting dumb or being rude or doing something wrong, but its possible to do so without coming off as downright mean, and talking about people on a public forum can still be rather hurtful if not said directly to someone. I would encourage people to just try and politely explain when someone does something wrong without coming off as babying to help try and get and understanding between users and improve as people on the whole. I struggle with the politeness thing myself at times, but I agree. What you said would be the ideal thing to do Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mapa Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 3 minutes ago, Toshabi said: Toshabi Rumor (98.10% accuracy rating) Saxon got so upset over what one user said that he ate his hands and is unable to type on forums anymore. I'm sure his neighbors would love to hear him yelling at furries via speech recognition. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrishaCat Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 I struggle with the politeness thing myself at times, but I agree. What you said would be the ideal thing to do The politeness thing is really important; people don't like to listen to each other if the opposing party is acting like a dick. Its hard to talk to and listen to someone that speaks rudely to you and insults you or any number of things. This closes off communication and makes it harder for people to grow and better themselves, so its extremely important that people be polite when confronting each other about their problems. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 Holy words. Nobody likes patronizing tones either Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuujou Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 1 minute ago, Battlechili said: The politeness thing is really important; people don't like to listen to each other if the opposing party is acting like a dick. Its hard to talk to and listen to someone that speaks rudely to you and insults you or any number of things. This closes off communication and makes it harder for people to grow and better themselves, so its extremely important that people be polite when confronting each other about their problems. Sooooo many threads in site discussion either start off or quickly devolve into very scathing, hostile judgement of character towards the moderation as if they're paid or should be 100% perfect. And so beautiful people like Clove are pushed away because of what I would honestly label as needless abuse. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggdodger Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 1 minute ago, XoPachi said: Sooooo many threads in site discussion either start off or quickly devolve into very scathing, hostile judgement of character towards the moderation as if they're paid or should be 100% perfect. And so beautiful people like Clove are pushed away because of what I would honestly label as needless abuse. Multiple choice. Are the mods: A. Human, with human feelings B. Volunteers C. Occasionally prone to error D. All of the above 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mapa Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 1 minute ago, Eggdodger said: Multiple choice. Are the mods: A. Human, with human feelings B. Volunteers C. Occasionally prone to error D. All of the above E. Out to destroy the community that they hold so dear 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrishaCat Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 2 minutes ago, Amiir said: Holy words. Nobody likes patronizing tones either Sorry, I didn't mean to sound that way. I wasn't trying to say that you aren't trying to do that. I just wanted to emphasize its importance. I was just remembering something someone else told me. I used to use Tumblr a lot and whenever a major event would happen people would use it to attack anyone who wasn't particularly interested in the event. That anyone who didn't care was the enemy. A friend of mine decided to take the time to very carefully explain why people care and was really patient with me, and he told me that generally speaking people have an easier time learning from others if they're treated with respect and politefully explained to, rather than just rude words and attacks. So I took that to heart, and was just regurgitating what I remembered. I don't mean to come off as patronizing. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggdodger Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 1 minute ago, pothocket said: E. Out to destroy the community that they hold so dear Oh yeah, forgot that one. Sorry, I'm just the substitute teacher. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuujou Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 MMMM!!! Holy shit! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 7 minutes ago, Battlechili said: Sorry, I didn't mean to sound that way. I wasn't trying to say that you aren't trying to do that. I just wanted to emphasize its importance. No no no! I didn't mean you yourself were patronizing, just that assuming a patronizing tone is another way to turn a discussion into a fight basically. It wasn't aimed at you fam, you weren't being patronizing at all Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggdodger Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 2 minutes ago, XoPachi said: MMMM!!! Holy shit! Nothing like mod hate to bring the family together 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuujou Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 4 minutes ago, Amiir said: No no no! I didn't mean you yourself were patronizing, just that assuming a patronizing tone is another way to turn a discussion into a fight basically. It wasn't aimed at you fam, you weren't being patronizing at all Isn't Chili adorable? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 5 minutes ago, XoPachi said: Isn't Chili adorable? Yes, in a good way of course Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggdodger Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 7 minutes ago, XoPachi said: Isn't Chili adorable? Oh, so I'm not the only one! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrishaCat Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 7 minutes ago, Amiir said: No no no! I didn't mean you yourself were patronizing, just that assuming a patronizing tone is another way to turn a discussion into a fight basically. It wasn't aimed at you fam, you weren't being patronizing at all Woops, my bad. Just being extra careful. I don't wanna come off as preachy. But yeah, you're right. Its important to not be patronizing. Make everyone feel like they're on the same playing field, so to speak. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sidewalk Surfboard Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 MODS R LITERALLY HITLER REVOLUTION WHEN??? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mapa Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 (edited) 25 minutes ago, Battlechili said: 14 minutes ago, XoPachi said: adorable congrats on #10k mate Edit: Fuck you "Invision Power Services, Inc," and your forum software. Here, have a link to the gif instead. Edited August 6, 2016 by pothocket what a trainwreck of a post. leaving it here for integrity 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosha Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 Quote drama 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggdodger Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 4 minutes ago, Sidewalk Surfboard said: MODS R LITERALLY HITLER REVOLUTION WHEN??? PROLETARIAT LIBFURTY 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FenrirDarkWolf Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 7 minutes ago, Sidewalk Surfboard said: MODS R LITERALLY HITLER REVOLUTION WHEN??? What are you @PastryOfApathy? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggdodger Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 1 minute ago, FenrirDarkWolf said: What are you @PastryOfApathy? No, I am. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DevilBear Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 So that happened. Anyhow. Wyoming is a pretty state. I enjoy coming out here. My dog has been so patient with the 13 hour drive. I know he's bored. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kosha Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 Just now, DevilBear said: So that happened. Anyhow. idk something about saxon, discord, mods r hitler, and how 6tails is better than everyone. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggdodger Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 1 minute ago, DevilBear said: So that happened. Anyhow. Wyoming is a pretty state. I enjoy coming out here. My dog has been so patient with the 13 hour drive. I know he's bored. I would be too if I had to drive 13 hours while my master slept in the back seat. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrishaCat Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 11 minutes ago, pothocket said: congrats on #10k mate Edit: Fuck you "Invision Power Services, Inc," and your forum software. Here, have a link to the gif instead. I thought you got the 10 thousandth post. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mapa Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 Just now, Battlechili said: I thought you got the 10 thousandth post. Does OP count? Maybe we can share the glory. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggdodger Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 5 minutes ago, Kosha said: how 6tails is better than everyone. Well, he is, and I'm not afraid to say it to his face instead of complimenting him behind his back >=( 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hux Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 TWO MORE HOURS UNTIL LAUNCH Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuujou Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 Just now, Hux said: TWO MORE HOURS UNTIL LAUNCH IT COMES OUT THAT SOON!? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hux Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 1 minute ago, XoPachi said: IT COMES OUT THAT SOON!? WHAT?! YEEEAAAUHHH! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eggdodger Posted August 6, 2016 Share Posted August 6, 2016 *scratches head* What comes out in two hours? Let me be cool too! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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