jcstinks Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 Hello, Internet! Today I have another list for you. I love lists! I've gotten some messages lately from people who feel like they're not being heard in various chat rooms in which I reside. They feel like they're not part of the group, and that people don't respond to or like them. This is most disturbing to me, as I want everyone to just get along. Today's list will help you Aspergarians be less annoying to others on Internet chats! 1. Don't treat a conversation like your personal Twitter feed. All of a sudden, you have a thought! Maybe you're thinking something inane. Maybe you're thinking about an intense interest of yours. "Did you know that the swastika is an ancient religious symbol? It derives from the Sanskrit name for a hooked cross, which was used by ancient civilizations as a symbol of fertility and good fortune. It has been found in the ruins of Greece, Egypt, China, India, and Hindu temples." You will then proceed to type at least 10-15 uninterrupted lines about this topic without checking in with the other person. You will not respond to what they have to say, as it interrupts your flow! If they try to segue into another topic, related or not, you will immediately shift it back to your original thought. Doing this is talking at the person, not with them. Before posting, ask yourself, "is this going to be interesting, relevant, or significant to the other person? Are they going to have anything to say about this?" If not, you're just using them as a sounding board for your own internal monologue, and reducing them to a conversational object. 2. Don't immediately change the topic when you log in. When you first sign into the chat, please, please go back and read the previous comments! Everyone will appreciate this. Why? Because there is a conversational thread with its own organic pacing that continues from before you were there. Logging in and saying what's immediately on your mind will break the flow of this, and people will be unsure whether to reply to you or to continue along the current topic. If you want to introduce a new topic, wait until you can segue into it, when the current topic seems exhausted, or when there is a lull in the chat. 3. Don't "snipe" with comments then not respond to them. One problem with Asperger's is "non-reciprocal communication." That is, Aspergarian communication tends to be one-sided. We express what we want to say, and then we're done. The problem with this is that people will spend the time reading your message, formulating a response, and then waiting for you to return. Please say "thank you" or respond to what they have to say, or else you'll leave an awkward silence in your wake. This counts doubly for posting links with no commentary. And triply for posting videos, I swear to god, I just watched the whole thing and now you're gone, ugh. 4. Respond to the point of what people say, not the details. With Asperger's, it's common to want to respond to the details of a comment. Especially if those details a.) relate to an interest of yours, or b.) are factually wrong. To the Aspergarian, the content of the sentence is all that matters. If you're responding to what they said, it's all good, right?! Incorrect. Every speaker has a topic phrase in their communication, much like the beginning of a school paper. Before responding, determine what they're looking for. Are they looking for advice? Do they want to be validated? Do they just need to vent? Are they sharing a fun fact? Are they trying to get into a discussion? As hard as it is, try to ignore extraneous information to their point. Example: Question 1: "I'm having a hard time with school. I'm only getting a 75 so far in Biology... :(" What might you say in response to this? Please choose the most correct answer. A.) "How far along are you in the class? Can you still bring it up?" INCORRECT. The speaker is looking for support. This is not information that you need to provide support. This response is looking for more information than is needed. B.) "Don't worry about it! Grades aren't that important anyways, as long as you feel like you're learning." INCORRECT. While you're providing the speaker with support, you are also offering unsolicited advice. The speaker clearly cares about his grades, and is not looking to be dissuaded from that. C.) "Yeah, I'm having a hard time too. It's been a tough semester." INCORRECT. Commiserating with the speaker is not a bad thing, but do not turn it into your issue. Doing so directs the conversation away from the speaker's issue. D.) "I'm sorry to hear that. What's going on, are you going to be alright?" CORRECT. The speaker is looking for support, and you are providing direct support. This response requests that the speaker continue to share whatever is on his mind with you. I am very smart and good at people, so please take this advice as law. Thank you. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spot Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 (edited) Edited March 16, 2016 by Mr. Fox 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xaende Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 Perfecting the art form, I see. *grabs a bag of popcorn, and sits in the corner* 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vae Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 The answer to number 4 is incorrect. The only correct response in this situation is to post Ludwig, thereby instantly cheering up the distraught user and alleviating them of their trivial concerns. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sidewalk Surfboard Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 But what about Rolfeposting? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alexxx-Returns Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 This was really informative, thank you for taking the time to make it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
#00Buck Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 Well at least it isn't a Rassah text wall. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willow Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 3 hours ago, Mr. Fox said: I'm glad someone caught on 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jcstinks Posted March 16, 2016 Author Share Posted March 16, 2016 4 hours ago, Mr. Fox said: IT DOESN'T WORK IF YOU SPOIL IT. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zeke Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 3 hours ago, jcstinks said: IT DOESN'T WORK IF YOU SPOIL IT. This is bait 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Snagged Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 Just now, Zeke said: Hidden Content Well played, Sir Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 COCK Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rabbit Head Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 (edited) I thought this was pretty interesting and helpful as a sperg, but everybody in the thread is saying that it's bait. What do I do. Edited March 16, 2016 by Rabbit Head 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pignog Posted March 16, 2016 Share Posted March 16, 2016 2 hours ago, Rabbit Head said: I thought this was pretty interesting and helpful as a sperg, but everybody in the thread is saying that it's bait. What do I do. just post 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rabbit Head Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 OK, I'm posting. Now what? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Endless/Nameless Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 6 minutes ago, Rabbit Head said: OK, I'm posting. Now what? 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mikazuki Marazhu Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 Bookmarked for future use. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vallium Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 Oh gosh this thread is a beautiful mess Also JC is kind of a dick cuz all his opinions suck Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spot Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 7 hours ago, willow said: I'm glad someone caught on If 20 years of forum culture has taught me anything, it's how to identify bait. Makes a few good points, though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nordo Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 2 hours ago, Rabbit Head said: OK, I'm posting. Now what? Follow the rules above for a happy future. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jcstinks Posted March 17, 2016 Author Share Posted March 17, 2016 1 hour ago, WolfNightV4X1 said: Also JC is kind of a dick cuz all his opinions suck If you dislike me that much, don't reply to my threads or comments anymore. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vallium Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 21 minutes ago, jcstinks said: If you dislike me that much, don't reply to my threads or comments anymore. Fuq u I do wut I wunt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zaraphayx Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 6 minutes ago, WolfNightV4X1 said: Fuq u I do wut I wunt Please want to post better. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vallium Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 Just now, Zaraphayx said: Please want to post better. Thank you to replied Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rabbit Head Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 My experiences here summed up as such... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zytan Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 19 hours ago, Rabbit Head said: I thought this was pretty interesting and helpful as a sperg, but everybody in the thread is saying that it's bait. What do I do. You take it as information and ignore the point, duh :V Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SirRob Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 I would be happy to accept any of those answers if I was telling someone about a problem I was having 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Conker Posted March 17, 2016 Share Posted March 17, 2016 Since I don't have assburgers, tumbler says I can't be upset or happy with this thread. Not my place. Carry on. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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