Yo

[Pratzelwurm]

I've been looking for a new furry-oriented forum to check out, and I decided to try this one. So, we'll see how it goes, right?

I'm Matt / Salem and I'm a bakeneko from Texas. I've been a furry for about six years now -- well, technically speaking I've always kind of been one, I just didn't start calling myself that until six years ago, and even then I didn't "come out" as a furry until two years later. I'm trying to be more involved in the furry com as I'm becoming more comfortable with that part of my identity.

I'm not really a lifestyler, more of just a casual guy who likes drawing cartoon animals, wearing collars, and dressing up in fun costumes.

Anyways, enough blabbering about myself. I look forward to meeting new people!

EDIT: Not sure if I'm gonna stay. There seems to be a lot of mean-spiritedness here... (cringe threads, specifically). That kind of stuff really upsets me.

Edited May 14, 2017 by Pratzelwurm

[DrDingo]

Hey, don't worry about it mate. We're not mean-spirited; we just know each other well enough to say what we feel. We're close-knit in that way.

If you stick around, welcome! Hope you have a good time posting and meeting us all. (:

[fennecbyte]

Welc-

4 hours ago, Pratzelwurm said:

EDIT: Not sure if I'm gonna stay. There seems to be a lot of mean-spiritedness here... (cringe threads, specifically). That kind of stuff really upsets me.

Oh.
One hour until we drove him away. I have a feeling that this is a new record for us.

[Fantasma]

Are you referring to the bad fursuit thread or something?

 

Anyways, we tend to be a pragmatic and logical bunch, so we're not specifically mean but our group doesnt have what's practically called a "hugbox" (So openminded and accepting that people accept awful things and BS in the fandom, and being too soft to speak the harsh truth sometimes that may hurt feelings; coming up with examples we NEVER speak of bestiality in a positive light here, cub porn is banned, and people use the word furfag loosely as a term of endearment which offends some people who are fainter of heart)

 

Its up to you whether you stay or go but a lot of fur communities exist. If this place isnt your speed try the offshoot fur affinity forums. forums.furaffinity.net

 

(EDIT: YES I KNOW BUT I CANT CHANGE IT NOW)

[Vitaly]

26 minutes ago, fennecbyte said:

I have a feeling that this is a new record for us.

hooray
The next goal: leaving after first response. 

 

[Zerig]

lmao what a fag

[Endless/Nameless]

hello hi

[Pratzelwurm]

9 hours ago, Zerig said:

lmao what a fag

Wow I think you cut me with that edge. Try something more original next time.

17 hours ago, Fantasma said:

Are you referring to the bad fursuit thread or something?

Anyways, we tend to be a pragmatic and logical bunch, so we're not specifically mean but our group doesnt have what's practically called a "hugbox"

Sort of, as well as just the general negative attitude. Pragmatic is one thing, but I'm looking for a fun place to hang out, not somewhere where I have to worry about being bullied. I get enough of that shit IRL and on other websites. Case and point: the upstanding citizen I quoted before you.

Idk, feel free to prove me wrong, but the response to my fucking intro post isn't winning any favours.

[Zerig]

9 minutes ago, Pratzelwurm said:

Pragmatic is one thing, but I'm looking for a fun place to hang out, not somewhere where I have to worry about being bullied. I get enough of that shit IRL and on other websites.

purrhaps there is a reason

a mature and well adjusted individual seeks to learn from criticism, not hide away from it.

I think you should search inside yourself and discover the insecurities that cause you to be so offended by by cringe threads and being called a fag.

I got a B in Psychology this semester so I'm pretty much 100% correct on this.

[Endless/Nameless]

idk you sound like you could hold your own here alright

congrats on being clear and coherent

26 minutes ago, Pratzelwurm said:

the upstanding citizen I quoted before you.

He lives in a dumpster

[Pratzelwurm]

13 minutes ago, Endless/Nameless said:

idk you sound like you could hold your own here alright

congrats on being clear and coherent

He lives in a dumpster

No shit. I don't have time for people who are that immature.

Anyways, like I said, most of you seem nice enough, I'd just rather not have to deal with those sorts more than I already have to. It's not a question of my capability, but rather my willingness to engage in unpleasant situations.

[Endless/Nameless]

3 minutes ago, Pratzelwurm said:

Anyways, like I said, most of you seem nice enough, I'd just rather not have to deal with those sorts more than I already have to. It's not a question of my capability, but rather my willingness to engage in unpleasant situations.

I'm glad you know what you want and are aware of your limits and are thinking proactively.

[Red Lion]

Welcome to phoenix. 

Tip: People may call you a fag but I don't think anyone on this site genuinely is out to hurt anyone's feelings. Take it as a joke, return fire, and remember to keep chill and you'll do just fine. 

[Tsuujou]

Lesson 1: Zerig is our resident troll. We love him and he loves us. Given time, you'll love him too and despite how he might act, he already loves you. Zerig is a good boy.

Lesson 2: Embrace the cringe. It's the furry fandom. It can't be avoided. Drink it in and learn to laugh at yourself and others.  

Lesson 3: No need to be outwardly defensive. Lurk a bit or have more reserved posting habits if you want. I promise you, you'll have to either seriously fuck up beyond redemption (ex: be a stalker or intentionally falsely accuse someone of aiding a predator) or continually be a pain in the ass for the majority here to actually dislike you and hold shit against you. So far, you're good despite some extra sensitivity.

Just relax.

[Cap'n Crosseye]

And remember, by law we cannot give medical advice through the forums.

[Vae]

This sure is a thread.

Protip OP: If you have issues with the community, it's best to just silently and gracefully dip out, instead of passive-aggressively insinuating there's something "wrong" with us for not catering to  you and what your emotional insecurities need.

That's not our problem. That's yours.
And personally speaking, when something is my problem, I don't try to make it everyone else's. Especially not amongst long-standing groups.

[[null]]

Heh, i like you already. If you're still around welcome to the forums.

Some people here are...interesting to say the least, but it's best not to take the atmosphere here seriously. Because i can assure you none of the regs really do. Casual dickishness seems to be part of the forum's culture but it's pretty fun to respond in kind and after a while you'll see the people here are generally chill. Also ignore the post above me, if you have problems with the forum please make them clear in as aggressive a manner as possible so i can watch the show with a bucket of popcorn. :3

[fennecbyte]

2 hours ago, [null] said:

Also ignore the post above me, if you have problems with the forum please make them clear in as aggressive a manner as possible so i can watch the show with a bucket of popcorn. :3

He might think you're actually serious about this.

Shush.
^{_{Or, you know, don't. I can't make you do anything.}}

[QT Melon]

I think you'll do fine on the forum. You just need to get used to some of the more colorful people in the forums.

[[null]]

1 hour ago, fennecbyte said:

He might think you're actually serious about this.

Shush.
^{_{Or, you know, don't. I can't make you do anything.}}

I'm always serious, especially when i'm joking.

[fennecbyte]

8 minutes ago, [null] said:

I'm always serious, especially when i'm joking.

But are you joking when you're serious?

[[null]]

1 minute ago, fennecbyte said:

But are you joking when you're serious?

Of course, absolutely everything i say is a deadly serious joke.

[Data]

On 5/14/2017 at 0:30 AM, Pratzelwurm said:

There seems to be a lot of mean-spiritedness here

AAAGH, THE THREAD I DELETED RETURNS WITH A VENGEANCE!

On a more serious note, I used to be the same way on here, but came to actually enjoy the openness of the community. No holds barred means more of the truth is said than not. some of the forum is cynical, but in all fairness, we have our own section for complaining, in multiple areas. so that should probably say a lot. if you read those, usually someone tries to help, or at least sympathize. We aren't all assholes, just rough around the edges. not really much more, and not really much less. 

If you are still here, welcome to the forums, Hopefully you can learn to try and accept the ways of the people here as we would have tried to accept yours.

[Spot]

8 hours ago, Vae said:

This sure is a thread.

Protip OP: If you have issues with the community, it's best to just silently and gracefully dip out, instead of passive-aggressively insinuating there's something "wrong" with us for not catering to  you and what your emotional insecurities need.

That's not our problem. That's yours.
And personally speaking, when something is my problem, I don't try to make it everyone else's. Especially not amongst long-standing groups.

Shut up mom you're making to much sense, but we're still allowed to complain when others act like dicks.

[Vae]

22 minutes ago, Mr. Fox said:

but we're still allowed to complain when others act like dicks.

Not when you've been here for like 5 minutes, and your complaint is "I saw threads that had nothing to do with me, but I feel personally targeted anyway, because weh~ muh persecution complex!"

[Spot]

27 minutes ago, Vae said:

Not when you've been here for like 5 minutes, and your complaint is "I saw threads that had nothing to do with me, but I feel personally targeted anyway, because weh~ muh persecution complex!"

Most people have a victim complex, but if someone has a legitimate concern saying suck it up fixes nothing, and it's discouraging for new members to get involved with a community when a staff member acts like it's no ones fault but the complaintants. Can't blame the new guy for making a few observations though, because, well...he's kinda right.

Anyway, have noticed the attendance rate on this forum has declined a lot lately, so not like it really matters much anyway...

[MuttButt]

Goddamn you can always count on @Vae to tell it like it is.

 

This thread has reminded me that you guys are all a bunch of fucking degenerates and honestly I wouldn't have it any other way. I hate the drama and the infighting and the shit talk sometimes but I'll take it over the opposite extreme any day of the week.

[Falaffel]

REEEE NEWFAG
lets bring that back

PS: You're all fucking retarded

[[null]]

1 hour ago, Vae said:

Not when you've been here for like 5 minutes, and your complaint is "I saw threads that had nothing to do with me, but I feel personally targeted anyway, because weh~ muh persecution complex!"

But if they posted in those threads observing the aforementioned persecution complex of said newfag via the medium of text would be rather entertaining.

Plus who knows, they might end up having a point. ;p

[Zaraphayx]

Shut up nerds.

[Tsuujou]

8 minutes ago, Zaraphayx said:

Shut up nerds.

I've had this in my folder for quite some time.

[Snagged]

Welcome (if you're even reading this. In case you do, hooray) 

As people have pointed out, don't take things too seriously. I can tell from my own personal introduction thread that there are (and were) people with sharp edges and that I didn't feel particularly comfortable with but what I also saw was people being welcoming and caring. What I learned was that in the end, you can either ignore the people who jab at you or join them, knowing they don't really mean it and you can share both the fun and sorrows in our lives with each other. So I stayed and I can tell it was worth it. 

Also, as others have pointed out, this place is not something considered of an echo chamber or an hugbox. We are allowed to criticize others, the fandom and ourselves and many of us embrace the cringe that springs up from within and we just laugh it off. Not that it is the only topic allowed here. This forum is free spirited and a lot of posts here are what I would like to describe as "slice of life" (aside from the posts that sprout from occasional political threads) and I am sure one can easily find their place here. Take a seat and enjoy... if you're still here and not already turned away from the doorstep. 

 

[Vae]

17 hours ago, Mr. Fox said:

Most people have a victim complex, but if someone has a legitimate concern saying suck it up fixes nothing, and it's discouraging for new members to get involved with a community when a staff member acts like it's no ones fault but the complaintants. Can't blame the new guy for making a few observations though, because, well...he's kinda right.

Anyway, have noticed the attendance rate on this forum has declined a lot lately, so not like it really matters much anyway...

It's not a "legitimate concern" to have knee-jerk paranoid reactions towards threads that have nothing to do with you, under the assumption that you're going to be targeted because you're just that important, to us or anyone else.

Also it's not my personal goal to be welcoming and inclusive. I'm here to make sure people don't break the site rules.
Whether or not new people join or stay is irrelevant to me.

[Vae]

<mod post>
Also this thread's outlived its general purpose, since OP is gone anyway.
If we need further discussion on the conduct of the community, inclusivity, or the mods, it's better suited to a new thread in Site Discussion or Watercooler,
which you are fully welcome to make if this is a concern.

Locking this.
</mod post>