The Jealousy Thread

[FenrirDarkWolf]

Jealousy isn't healthy, we all know that, but despite that, we still feel it for some reason or another. This thread is to share anything that you guys feel jealous about, whether it's money related, work, skills, etc.

Me, personally?

I'm super jelly about how good this person is ;u;

[FlynnCoyote]

I am honestly jealous of how easily some people make friends. Yet at the same time something about it is really unsettling.

 

[Wulfila]

donald trumps WONDERFUL hair

[Socketosis]

I'm jealous more often than I should be. I'm jealous of guys with amazing girlfriends (not just looks wise), people who have great charisma that makes them loved by all with seemingly little difficulty, people who have a vast amount of knowledge and intelligence that I could never hope to gain, and people who are able to live independently.

I realize it's bad to compare yourself to others because you'll never be happy that way, but I'll be damned if it's hard not to with depression.

[Alexxx-Returns]

This is incredibly petty and kind of fucked up so I don't often talk about it here but it's relevant so here goes.

So when I went to med school the guys there were jerks (I mean, the girls were too, but the stuff the guys said and did affected me more). Having a large number of guys who seemed to hit 14 and never mentally mature past that age, in the same environment, is kind of a bad situation, and even worse to be caught right in the middle of, because I lived with 3 of these guys. One thing they really liked to do was compare how hot or not all the girls in the class were. All. The. Time.

As it happened, I was "not". It was a year of rejection, having guys literally run away from me, and walk straight through me, which was kind of shit, but not really what I'm talking about. So they liked to talk about this one girl in particular the most. They called her "the fit one". Another guy said she was "all tits and arse". That stuck with me. If anyone asks what my goals are from working out, that's what I'll say I'm trying to be. The truth is I'm not observant enough to have really thought anything of this girl's body without having it shoved in my face every single day for the first 2 months of the class. But all the guys were saying how "perfect" she was (and meanwhile everyone was saying my INNER BEAUTY made up for my looks and I had other stuff going for me...), and I'm not just saying this but she was saying the same things. She'd talk about nothing except her amazing body and how good she looked.

So throughout the year, every time I saw "the fit one" in classes, I'd hate myself. Like, really fucking hate myself because I didn't look like her. And it was hard to avoid BEING in classes with her because her name came straight after mine on the register so we were always in small group classes together (as were a couple of my male roommates, so the "the fit one" worship continued here.

Yes, she worked out and she ate right. She earned her body and she earned the male attention it got her, and she has every right to be happy to receive it. And I know I'm petty as hell for being jealous, because I DIDN'T work out so I had no right to complain about being gross, fat and shapeless. But I DID ask her what her regime was. She said "I do deadlifts". Yeah, not helpful. (deadlifts are a very, very small percentage of my current regime, and I really don't want to sound like an ass when I say this, but if someone asked me what I do for exercise, I'd be happy to actually help them instead of being deliberately vague and unhelpful).

So the experiences I had there have kind of stuck with me. My problems with self image have gotten worse (but can someone really say they have a self image problem if they see themself as an ugly POS and they actually ARE an ugly POS?) and I've developed problems with eating, but since I got kicked out of med school I've spent the last 5 months working out HARD. I try and go every other day, and I've been working with a personal trainer and I've learned how to eat to get that kind of body. My leg regime is ridiculous, but I'm not seeing ANY progress in toning up my ass, and it's really testing my sanity. It's been 5 fucking months. I should have seen SOME improvement. I'm struggling to get to my goal weight too (once I get to 51kg, I can start putting on butt muscle, which is what I KNOW "the fit one" has done) since I keep binging and putting the weight back on. I mean, the trend has always been downwards, but it's really holding me back.

Having a body like hers has consumed my entire life, but I've never been happier somehow. I don't know what I'm trying to achieve - even if I did look like her, I know I'd never gain the acceptance of the people at med school who treated me like shit. I'm never even gonna see them again, so they will never know. I guess that's what a complex is at the end of the day. Even though she was really up her own ass, "the fit one" seemed genuinely happy. I like to think that if have a body like hers, I won't hate myself any more. But then a part of me knows that even when I get there, I'll always compare myself to her and still lose out. I worry that I'll never be able to see it in myself. I know that my body won't ever be EXACTLY like hers anyway because she's got a small frame and mine is really hefty. My ribcage is massive, and deformed (thanks Dad for passing down your weird, deformed ribs to me) so I'm not even underweight and I look hella fucking weird. I don't look strong, I just look bony.

I worry that my waist to hip ratio will never be good enough. I'm worried that no one will ever look at me and think "all tits and arse". I'm worried that no one will EVER notice the changes in my body. No one has so far and I've lost about 7kg and toned up quite dramatically (except in the one place I really need it).

It's gotten to the stage where I hate myself whenever I see ANY lady with a toned ass and long, thin legs in the gym. My legs are fucking massive, I'll never have thin, perfect legs like that. Even though the self loathing makes me work much harder in the moment, so I really can't complain. Now is not the time to be getting complacent.

TL;DR: ugly girl is jealous of hot girl and all the male attention she gets

[DrDingo]

I'm thinking really hard and I'm trying to work out a good answer

But jealous isn't the right word. If I see someone doing something I want to do, I see them as more of a role model than an envy target

I look up to a lot of people. See, I've got the power to better myself, if I have the courage to do things

[Socketosis]

11 minutes ago, Alexxx-Returns said:

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Damn girl, you really have your body image eating you up inside.

I know I can't convince you that your body is fine, but I'm not sure you really want the attention from guys like that. They're obviously rather shallow and only think with their nether regions. The attention might be nice, but they wouldn't care a single iota about you as a person. The only thing they're thinking about (I'm assuming) when talking to the "tits and arse" girl is their chances of banging her.

Her chances of finding guys may be higher, but if she actually wants to find someone who likes her outside of her body, she will have to put more effort into weeding out the bad ones.

I'm not trying to discourage you from reaching your desired body image though, because hey, go for it! Just be careful and don't let it consume your entire life.

[Alexxx-Returns]

2 minutes ago, Socketosis said:

Damn girl, you really have your body image eating you up inside.

I know I can't convince you that your body is fine, but I'm not sure you really want the attention from guys like that. They're obviously rather shallow and only think with their nether regions. The attention might be nice, but they wouldn't care a single iota about you as a person. The only thing they're thinking about (I'm assuming) when talking to the "tits and arse" girl is their chances of banging her.

Her chances of finding guys may be higher, but if she actually wants to find someone who likes her outside of her body, she will have to put more effort into weeding out the bad ones.

I'm not trying to discourage you from reaching your desired body image though, because hey, go for it! Just be careful and don't let it consume your entire life.

But I DO want that attention. Even if I know it's bad attention. I never get catcalled or anything. But I don't have a right to be sour about not getting that if I'm disgusting, I don't deserve it.

I'd rather have attention from guys who just wanted to bang me than from guys who were looking at my "inner beauty" because then that would mean I looked good. If people keep going on about my inner beauty and all the non looks-related stuff I have going for me, it means I'm still ugly. I saw what she had when she had all these guys flocking around her who wanted to bang her, and I want it.

[Aouzy]

I'm jealous that everyone is more talented than me

[Alexxx-Returns]

20 minutes ago, Sylver said:

Do you like the value you place on attention and beauty? If you could completely remove the value you place on attention and/or beauty, do you think you'd do it? Why? I don't think there's a point to this question; it's just interesting to think about.

That's kind of like the question "would you rather be fat and happy, or thin and unhappy?". To which I would rather be fat and happy. If I could remove this value, I would. It would be nice to like myself the way I am.

[Vae]

<mod warning>
Desperation for sexual attention or not, this is the PG-13 section, you guys.
Keep it in your pants. This isn't the place for it.
</mod warning>

[LazerMaster5]

Not so much jealousy as desire, but I would love to host an automotive show like Roadkill or The Grand Tour. Thrashing cars with your best friends and getting paid to do so sounds like heaven.

[Nova]

I got jealous last year when my best friend played more with a other in my classs than me.

I felt left out.

I didnt want to play with them.

I was pissed off

Worst feeling ever

But after some time i got over it.

[Moogle]

Intelligence of others has always been a big one for me, it doesn't help that out of all your siblings you're probably the most undereducated one with no redeeming factors (non-creative wise). That said, they're good markers to strive for.. but that definitely doesn't keep the green envious bugger at bay! 

[AleuLeLoup]

19 minutes ago, Moogle said:

Intelligence of others has always been a big one for me, it doesn't help that out of all your siblings you're probably the most undereducated one with no redeeming factors (non-creative wise). That said, they're good markers to strive for.. but that definitely doesn't keep the green envious bugger at bay! 

Same aside for the siblings. For me it's my cousins as I do not have siblings. My parents always bragged about how so'n'so is Miss Pennsylvania and how so'n'so is an executive producer for some TV series and so'n'so has his own business

 

and I'm just sittin here like..."I made a pancake"

[Feelwell]

I'll admit I'm jealous all my close friends have their shit together, more or less, and have things working.

[Fantasma]

8 hours ago, Alexxx-Returns said:

This is incredibly petty and kind of fucked up so I don't often talk about it here but it's relevant so here goes.

So when I went to med school the guys there were jerks (I mean, the girls were too, but the stuff the guys said and did affected me more). Having a large number of guys who seemed to hit 14 and never mentally mature past that age, in the same environment, is kind of a bad situation, and even worse to be caught right in the middle of, because I lived with 3 of these guys. One thing they really liked to do was compare how hot or not all the girls in the class were. All. The. Time.

As it happened, I was "not". It was a year of rejection, having guys literally run away from me, and walk straight through me, which was kind of shit, but not really what I'm talking about. So they liked to talk about this one girl in particular the most. They called her "the fit one". Another guy said she was "all tits and arse". That stuck with me. If anyone asks what my goals are from working out, that's what I'll say I'm trying to be. The truth is I'm not observant enough to have really thought anything of this girl's body without having it shoved in my face every single day for the first 2 months of the class. But all the guys were saying how "perfect" she was (and meanwhile everyone was saying my INNER BEAUTY made up for my looks and I had other stuff going for me...), and I'm not just saying this but she was saying the same things. She'd talk about nothing except her amazing body and how good she looked.

So throughout the year, every time I saw "the fit one" in classes, I'd hate myself. Like, really fucking hate myself because I didn't look like her. And it was hard to avoid BEING in classes with her because her name came straight after mine on the register so we were always in small group classes together (as were a couple of my male roommates, so the "the fit one" worship continued here.

Yes, she worked out and she ate right. She earned her body and she earned the male attention it got her, and she has every right to be happy to receive it. And I know I'm petty as hell for being jealous, because I DIDN'T work out so I had no right to complain about being gross, fat and shapeless. But I DID ask her what her regime was. She said "I do deadlifts". Yeah, not helpful. (deadlifts are a very, very small percentage of my current regime, and I really don't want to sound like an ass when I say this, but if someone asked me what I do for exercise, I'd be happy to actually help them instead of being deliberately vague and unhelpful).

So the experiences I had there have kind of stuck with me. My problems with self image have gotten worse (but can someone really say they have a self image problem if they see themself as an ugly POS and they actually ARE an ugly POS?) and I've developed problems with eating, but since I got kicked out of med school I've spent the last 5 months working out HARD. I try and go every other day, and I've been working with a personal trainer and I've learned how to eat to get that kind of body. My leg regime is ridiculous, but I'm not seeing ANY progress in toning up my ass, and it's really testing my sanity. It's been 5 fucking months. I should have seen SOME improvement. I'm struggling to get to my goal weight too (once I get to 51kg, I can start putting on butt muscle, which is what I KNOW "the fit one" has done) since I keep binging and putting the weight back on. I mean, the trend has always been downwards, but it's really holding me back.

Having a body like hers has consumed my entire life, but I've never been happier somehow. I don't know what I'm trying to achieve - even if I did look like her, I know I'd never gain the acceptance of the people at med school who treated me like shit. I'm never even gonna see them again, so they will never know. I guess that's what a complex is at the end of the day. Even though she was really up her own ass, "the fit one" seemed genuinely happy. I like to think that if have a body like hers, I won't hate myself any more. But then a part of me knows that even when I get there, I'll always compare myself to her and still lose out. I worry that I'll never be able to see it in myself. I know that my body won't ever be EXACTLY like hers anyway because she's got a small frame and mine is really hefty. My ribcage is massive, and deformed (thanks Dad for passing down your weird, deformed ribs to me) so I'm not even underweight and I look hella fucking weird. I don't look strong, I just look bony.

I worry that my waist to hip ratio will never be good enough. I'm worried that no one will ever look at me and think "all tits and arse". I'm worried that no one will EVER notice the changes in my body. No one has so far and I've lost about 7kg and toned up quite dramatically (except in the one place I really need it).

It's gotten to the stage where I hate myself whenever I see ANY lady with a toned ass and long, thin legs in the gym. My legs are fucking massive, I'll never have thin, perfect legs like that. Even though the self loathing makes me work much harder in the moment, so I really can't complain. Now is not the time to be getting complacent.

TL;DR: ugly girl is jealous of hot girl and all the male attention she gets

Alex, I don't mean this in a weird way but you are very attractive as is, and you have been for as long as you've posted in the mugshots thread.

I think maybe you are just asking the wrong crowd, because there will always be assholes that only think you are hot if you are practically pornstar material and that is simply not the case.

Just look at the replies you've gotten to literally every picture you've posted, you look fine girl.... I mean I bet there are members on here that look as good as you.

That being said I totally understand, and am hoping for some fine hips and tits myself

 

OT:

To be honest, I get horribly jealous of those with alot of money, I have all of my life. It's not easy for me to work against, because my dreams would come true with at most 100k after taxes, and those are my wildest dreams.

Maybe I will actually get my shit together, find a new job, and try going to chef school. There could be good money in that, and after a time I could open a resturant which I would absolutely love.

Just...... I feel like I can't provide for the ones I love, much less my own dreams. I feel like I'm a failure because my worth to help others is practically decided by the financial means I have to help them... so I feel like I fail them, everyday. I feel like I'm a failure, every day. I feel like I could do so much, but I just can't seem to make the funds to do so. I'm worthless to society, I'm worthless to my dreams, and sometimes I feel like I'm worthless with my ability to provide for my loved ones.

I mean fuck, I.... I'm a fucking failure, I'm a waste of these foodstamps we got, I don't deserve anything. I'm unemployed because my last job killed my health and nobody seems to want to hire me for even a minimum wage job, I'm floating on debt in the hopes I can drive for Lyft or Uber come march, and am overall just trying not to have my sanity completely fall away from me.

 

So yeah, I'm jealous of rich people. Stupid, I know.

[Shiro]

For me when it comes to jelousy, other people are out of the question. Trying to be like someone else, wanting what someone else has, will never get you anywhere. You have to focus, and invest in yourself. Sure, I know it may seem self centered, but I believe it to be true. Working on and bettering yourself as a person makes all the difference.  It's like what my father used to say, people spend so much time trying to get others to like them, to fit in with them, to be like them, but does that person even know themselves? Just something to think about.

[FenrirDarkWolf]

2 hours ago, Johanna Waya said:

OT:

To be honest, I get horribly jealous of those with alot of money, I have all of my life. It's not easy for me to work against, because my dreams would come true with at most 100k after taxes, and those are my wildest dreams.

Maybe I will actually get my shit together, find a new job, and try going to chef school. There could be good money in that, and after a time I could open a resturant which I would absolutely love.

Just...... I feel like I can't provide for the ones I love, much less my own dreams. I feel like I'm a failure because my worth to help others is practically decided by the financial means I have to help them... so I feel like I fail them, everyday. I feel like I'm a failure, every day. I feel like I could do so much, but I just can't seem to make the funds to do so. I'm worthless to society, I'm worthless to my dreams, and sometimes I feel like I'm worthless with my ability to provide for my loved ones.

I mean fuck, I.... I'm a fucking failure, I'm a waste of these foodstamps we got, I don't deserve anything. I'm unemployed because my last job killed my health and nobody seems to want to hire me for even a minimum wage job, I'm floating on debt in the hopes I can drive for Lyft or Uber come march, and am overall just trying not to have my sanity completely fall away from me.

 

So yeah, I'm jealous of rich people. Stupid, I know.

Johanna, believe me, I completely understand this statement.

[Snagged]

I am jealous most people are able to specialize in one thing they are really good at while I am sitting here still trying out things like in a buffet table and trying to find my place in the world

It'd okay if I was still a teen but since I hit 21 years of age, I feel my time is running out

[Falaffel]

i'm jealous that i don't have a fraction of the beauty that is sylveon

[TrishaCat]

As time goes on I realize that I'm jealous of those that are able to form romantic relationships with each other. I can't bring myself to leave my own dorm room for reasons other than class. The idea of even meeting new people is completely foreign to me, and as a result some loneliness has set in.

I'm also jealous of people who are able to pay for college without taking out loans or having to worry about whether or not their grades will take away their scholarships. It seems like it'd be so much less stressful.

[GarthTheWereWolf]

I'm jealous of people that are able to easily enjoy their free time. Feels like as I get older the more this is how my work/days off cycle seems to go every week:

[Revates]

I am jealous of garth's post:like ratio. :V

[Saxon]

I'm just super jealous of furries who have fursuits and relationships.

On 01/02/2017 at 1:30 PM, Battlechili said:

As time goes on I realize that I'm jealous of those that are able to form romantic relationships with each other. I can't bring myself to leave my own dorm room for reasons other than class. The idea of even meeting new people is completely foreign to me, and as a result some loneliness has set in.

I'm also jealous of people who are able to pay for college without taking out loans or having to worry about whether or not their grades will take away their scholarships. It seems like it'd be so much less stressful.

All of the British Petroleum scholars on my course lost their scholarships in the same year. They didn't seem to mind though, because the money they had received already was such a large amount. Evidently they had to submit declarations detailing what they had spent the money on and they were laughing that they had spent much of it on beer.

[FenrirDarkWolf]

Almost every amazing guy in guard is a twink.

And I'm fat.

*siiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigggggghhhhhhhhhhh*